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April 30th, 2012, 10:57 AM
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My friend has needed a new washing machine for quite a while now, and on friday, it once again needed a belt or part or whatnot. She was going to look at new washing machines tomorrow but her husband just called her to inform he had bought one.

Now, don't get me wrong, she is happy she is getting a new washing machine but not sure how she feels about having no input on what kind etc. And no, her husband is not domesticated, doesn't know the first thing about laundry.


this would not happen in my house, I would not appreciate not being consulted in the least, I would have at least wanted to look it up online before the final decision was made. And besides that, we don't buy big ticket items without checking with each other first, even if it was something I needed.

How would you react? Be glad about getting a new washing machine and leave it at that or be a little annoyed you had no say in the matter?
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April 30th, 2012, 11:16 AM
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Be glad and leave it at that. It is already done. He wanted to do something nice for her.

Maybe at some far off point in time have a talk about wanting to discuss large purchases. But not now.
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April 30th, 2012, 01:48 PM
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April 30th, 2012, 02:04 PM
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See, ideally I would like for that to be my reaction, just take it and be glad and be done with it, but I'm afraid that I may be a little less than charming about it.

This is why her and I are friends, she needs to rub off on me
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April 30th, 2012, 02:26 PM
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Probably surprised, but id be glad. That said my DH does do washing and knows what is needed, so if that werent the case I could see how my reaction might be different.
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April 30th, 2012, 04:42 PM
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I guess for me it would depend on why he got it without imput. However that would not happen here as DH and I have already agreed to always talk about big purchases. If DH came home with a new washer unless it was the one that I had already picked out I would be very upset. If I am the one expected to use it i should chose it.
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May 1st, 2012, 07:12 AM
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The only thing I would probably be upset about is that every time DH does this he has to buy the cadillac model and usually over spends. Other than that he does awesome with purchases and I would accept the surprise
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May 1st, 2012, 07:34 AM
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If it was meant as a surprise and came from a good place I would be fine with it. While they may not have discussed the purchase, the fact that a new one was needed doesn't come as a big surprise.

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May 1st, 2012, 09:01 AM
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I would have wanted input. Looking at washers together with no intentions to buy and then him going back for the purchase as a surprise would be my choice.
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May 1st, 2012, 10:14 AM
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the more kids we have the more we allow each other to make big purchases-more time efficient I think
I bought the last laundry set by myself, I'd let my dh do the same--worse case scenario we'd return it
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