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At what age do you stop letting your opposite gender children sleep in same room, or have bath together.
My 6 year old and my 3 year old want to do everything together. The older kids don't tend to want to play with them very much, the little ones don't like to take baths alone or sleep alone and the older ones won't do those things with them.
Would you still let them or do you think the 6 year old is getting too old to do those things with here little brother?
I have always let my kids do those things until they are uncomfortable doing them together. My 6 year old (ds) will still bathe with the 2 year daughter, and until he is no longer comfortable with it I will allow it. He is just starting to be modest so I know the time is coming where he won't. My 8 year old dd will still also bathe with the youngest. It's up to them when it stops....
I will say my 18 year dd also bathes with the youngest and my 20 year old ds will too but he leaves his underwear on lol
I think it depends on the child. My 7 year old son and 5 year old daughter won't sleep alone. They're the best of friends. The 7 year old either showers by himself or with his 3 year old brother now though.
I plan on following their comfort level too. My daughter who is about to turn 8 has days when she wants to shower alone, but on other days she begs to have one of her brothers take a bath with her (and ALLLLLLLLL of her barbies). My two year old is actually the most modest one, which is SO weird to me. He's been uncomfortable without a diaper almost forever. He whines whenever we have diaper-free time due to diaper rash or something. So I feel like he's going to grow out of buddy bath time before anyone else does.
I feel like baths and room sharing don't go hand in hand though. I figure somewhere around the start of puberty is a good time to separate the kids rooms as far as gender goes. That also depends on the comfort levels too. While DD will share her bath time, she is not as eager sharing her room with the boys. We sometimes toss our 2 yr old in her room when the boys are misbehaving and she's not a fan, lol.
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My six year old son still bathes with his younger sisters and shares a room with one of them. My seven year old dd likes to shower alone though, or will sometimes take a bath with the baby. She doesn't get in with him anymore.
My six year old recently started taking showers (her request) and before that she was taking baths with her nearly 5 year old brother and 3 year old sister. I agree with everyone else that if they are comfortable with it I wouldn't see an issue.
Alison - Mom to: Emmeline (7/14), Augustus (2) Maximus (4) Eleanor (5) Reid (6) Evelyn (8) Lucas (13) Christopher (14)
If I wasn't helping 4 yo with showers, the 11 yo would. That's only because the other girls are more reckless with soap in the eyes, and they're not always so nice to her. He'd be sure to not make her cry.
I don't know about room sharing. We don't have any of the same gender sharing a room right now. I did put the crib in the girl's room, so if the baby is a boy he will be in there for a while.
All our bedrooms are about the same size, so it didn't make sense to me to stuff three girls in one room and put Matt in his own. Eventually (hopefully by the time Beth is ten) I'd like to have a four bedroom place with her own room, Matt's own room, and the two little girls together. I think that would work best. For now though the current set-up is perfect. They're all little, and they like sharing.
I meant any of the opposite gender obviously in my post LOL
Even if we would have a mansion with 8 bedrooms Becca would have to share a room. She is the saddest little girl when the other girls spend the night somewhere. She'll cry til I let her sleep in the boy's room with Noah and RJ.
I would say 4 only because I know with my daughter and nephew they started noticing the difference and started pulling and pokin the other bits.. then i have caught them together in the room through the day he was show he his penis and he asked her to kiss it.. so now once they notice the difference im stopping it.
I have also heard of this with other children of the same age.