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So I have this dear friend, for almost 20 years. Her son and my son are best friends. Her sons birthday is coming up and she wants my son to come to her house Friday-Sunday. We live well over an hour apart, she works in the middle, and we go to the same church, so logistically it makes sense.
But she wants me to bring her 6 yo son to my house.
Moreover, my son doesn't want to be there that long. He doesn't want to be there Saturday afternoon/evening because they get all into fsu football and the dad and neighbors hang out and drink. My husband doesn't want him spending the night there because of the drinking. But I don't want to go get him. And I really don't want to keep the 6yo.
But this is all my fault because the kids birthday was this past Saturday but he didn't have a party because I had too much to do for my kid to go hang out with him. So my friend pushed it to next weekend.
Why did she ask me to keep her 6 yo? Why can't he be home with his brother? The kid is turning 10.
I would probably blame it on myself. Something to the effect of your ds has never been away that long?? unless she knows differently?? I am not comfortable with it. How many dc does she have? I personally can't understand wanting to ship one off, for us we have a "The more the Merrier" attitude. I mean we do let them spend time/nights away, but we wouldn't actively try to ship one off......unless we are having a get away, then it's a whole different subject.
I think I would do the driving and pick up my kid on Saturday. If your son (and husband) are uncomfortable with him staying saturday afternoon/night then he shouldn't be there, but I wouldn't want to hurt the mom and kids' feelings by not going at all, since she is a long time friend.
I guess I do understand the swapping of the children. I have sent younger kids off on sleepovers during birthday parties occasionally because all they want to do is be with the big kids, and all the older sister wants is not to have all her younger sisters with her and her friends the whole time. It just eliminates conflict, and that way the younger kid is happy that they have something to do too.