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Hubby and I are a blended family. We are thinking of adding one more. We have a 1 year old together, the rest of our children we do have full-time and are from our previous marriages. We have gone back and forth on having another and are really excited about our decision to try for another.
The problem is our family...well mostly mine. I get comments all the time abut how our family is complete and we have our hands full. The other day a relative told me if I had another I would probably be in the looney bin. Honestly, I don't feel like my hands are too full. I don't feel overwhelmed. I feel busy, but I am going to be this busy whether I add another child to it or not. Plus my oldest two will be off to college in a few years (hopefully) anyways. We are not telling anyone we are thinking of having another. If it happens then obviously we will share when the time is right.
How do you deal with telling people you know are going to be negative?
That's part of why I waited until when we went home for Christmas to tell anyone, and I was already 5 1/2 months along. I only got rude comments from 1 aunt, though so it was better than expected. Most people have enough sense not to say hurtful things.
Mommy to Jasmine (18), Kirsten (14), Ana (13), Katie (3), Xavier (1), and Gunnar (born 10-15-14)
Still you don't have to tell them. I always tell people first who I know will be supportive and kind and gracious even if they don't want more. Then it will leak out over time. I haven't directly told my parents, inlaws or our sibs about the last three. They read it on fb whether I see them regularly or not. I know they don't approve. I know they don't like it. I don't care. It is not their penis, vagina, uterus, house, money, or time. They don't get a vote. Nor will I allow their negativity a place in my heart.