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July 18th, 2014, 12:39 PM
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I read "push gifts" in the other thread.

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Who all get's them and what do you get?




I've never gotten one.
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July 18th, 2014, 01:25 PM
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I've never gotten one, I kinda assumed that I would be pushing as part of giving birth. Never, until recently, new that you should be gifted for doing it, I mean isn't the baby the gift?
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July 18th, 2014, 01:43 PM
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I think all my kids pre-dated that idea.
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July 18th, 2014, 02:17 PM
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My husband says the baby is the gift. I don't get the whole concept of "push gifts". Your getting a BABY, there is no greater gift than that.
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July 19th, 2014, 12:05 PM
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I haven't ever gotten one, but I wouldn't exactly turn my nose up at a pampering treat or nice memento of the jewelry variety if we could afford it!
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July 19th, 2014, 06:53 PM
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I think the baby is the gift too, lol.
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July 20th, 2014, 12:37 AM
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Wait, does it count when I had #2 at 4am and the hospital kitchen and cafeteria weren't open yet, and they only had meat sandwiches in the overnight fridge, and I was absolutely starving, so my husband bought me 8 chocolate bars from the vending machine?

8 chocolate bars is a present, right?
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July 20th, 2014, 03:22 PM
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I never heard of them til I had 5 or 6. Maybe when I joined here and see more of how others do things. We don't do that. Although I'm thinking of doing a family "sex reveal" party this time. Just my kids though. No one else will care.
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July 20th, 2014, 08:09 PM
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Don't sex reveal parties involve coloured cake? Because I can completely get behind anything that has to do with cake.
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July 20th, 2014, 09:17 PM
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It can be anything. The picture I saw today had a box closed with balloons that popped up when it was opened. Blue balloons for boy. I think my kids would be amused by that. Again, no one else would care. Then we could have chocolate cake.
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July 21st, 2014, 01:19 AM
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I have.
I have recieved different types of jewlery, dress, bangle braceltes (22k gold ) and my favorite....Diamonds! im sure there are other things that cant think of right now.

Dh gives them to me as a way of saying he appreciates the hardships I have gone through during pregnancy and delivery.

That sounds a bit weird that accepting a gift, means you dont consider the baby a "gift".

Even at the baby shower, half of the gifts are for mom too. Whats the difference of recieving a gift then or when the baby is delivered?
Also, when guests and family visit in hospital or once home they too bring gifts for baby and mom, so how is that any different?

Gifts are usually given for happiness and appreciation. Example, my child is graduating HS so I dont get a gift because graduating and getting your "diploma" is the "best" gift one could have????
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July 21st, 2014, 02:24 AM
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I guess different things play into it though. I know for us we're not really the gift giving kind of people, we don't do gifts for things like high school graduation or anything that isn't a birthday or Yule, really. We feast a lot, we celebrate everything with too many people in the extended family squeezed into someone's house that should not fit that many people and a ridiculous amount of food, and fire, if you see a bonfire, chances are there is someone from my husband's extended family there.
When my kids were born, we came home and had a massive family party and set some things on fire. Not everyone's cup of tea, but everyone celebrates a new baby in different ways, some people buy gifts, some people send out photo cards to everyone they know, some people set a chair on fire. Different strokes.

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July 26th, 2014, 09:43 PM
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My husband got me balloons and a card everytime but I don't expect anything for pushing out a baby lol.
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July 27th, 2014, 05:56 AM
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nope, no gifts.
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July 28th, 2014, 07:46 PM
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Just to be clear, I don't think there's a thing wrong with it! In fact, I think I would have probably really liked it. It's a love language thing I guess, and to me, getting a gift would have been significant having a piece of jewellery or whatnot tied to a memory. I have a friend that hasa gotten a substantial gift each time when she had her 3 babies (half carat diamond earrings anyone?). Now I'd probably be furious if dh spent money on something like that, but I don't think I would have minded a gift. I think it's a nice idea, as long as it's not felt as a financial burden or obligation.
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July 29th, 2014, 07:01 PM
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I've never really gotten one, unless you count the flowers that I got when I had #2 (our first together). I don't really expect anything, but like #5, I wouldn't turn it away, either. However, I would probably be upset if hubby spent that much money on me, particularly right now when I am not working full time, and we don't have much extra disposable income.
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