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August 13th, 2006, 05:42 AM
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Ugh! I just dont know what to do. I just cant decide if we should have another or not. My prob is if we are i want to start trying by next summer or maybe a little sooner. I am so afraid of making the wrong decision and regretting it. I am not worried about it financially I know we can make do or mentally or physically. somedays i cant imagine not having another one and then there are days that I think I must be crazy even having the thought. Another prob for me is I have no family support except for dh. They all could not believe I had John so they are no help at all. I guess i still have time to make the decision I just hate feeling so wishy washy about it. I also keep telling myself that if I feel this way then that must mean we should have another. I think my dh is sitting on the fence too. I think he is waiting for me to say yes or no! Just venting thanks!
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August 13th, 2006, 06:54 AM
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What the rush in deciding? Since you don't want to TTC untill at least next spring, just wait and see how you feel at say Christmas time.
But just to give you my thought, having another baby is something you won't regret, not having another baby is something you probably will regret. (That's why we have our little Jules lol)
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August 13th, 2006, 07:04 AM
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oh i would never regret having one, what Imeant by that was if I decided not to then I would regret it and then it may be to late! I guess theres no real rush, I am a planner though so its hard for me when i dont have a plan for something!!
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Jenna Noelle 4-17-02, VBAC 6 pounds 15 ounces, 19 inches
John Allen 4-4-06, VBAC 6 pounds 2 ounces 19 inches long
Paige Belle 5-21-07, VBAC 5 pounds 9 ounces 17 inches
Ava Marie 2-28-09, VBAC 5 pounds 10 ounces,16 1/2 inches
Jackson Douglas 2-13-13, VBAC 6 pounds 5 ounces, 19 inches
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August 14th, 2006, 07:09 AM
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I'd probably just have another LOL
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August 15th, 2006, 11:02 AM
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Honestly thats what I am leaning towards!LOL!! It just seems like the right thing to do.
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John Allen 4-4-06, VBAC 6 pounds 2 ounces 19 inches long
Paige Belle 5-21-07, VBAC 5 pounds 9 ounces 17 inches
Ava Marie 2-28-09, VBAC 5 pounds 10 ounces,16 1/2 inches
Jackson Douglas 2-13-13, VBAC 6 pounds 5 ounces, 19 inches
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August 17th, 2006, 08:12 PM
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I sorof know how you are feeling! I dont want to regret not having another one years down the line! Somedays I really want another one but there are two things that stop me!...Im 35 years old, so I dont have much time to decide.....And if I did have another..WOW I would have no support from family either. That in itself totally stinks so I know where your coming from in that department!....

I have 4 kids and I totally regret not having anymore kids inbetween Alex and Amber-Rae, my two middle kids. Alex is 16 and Amber-Rae is 6.
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August 23rd, 2006, 02:42 PM
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Girl I am going through the SAME thing! I have 3 children now, Bri is almost 3, Colin is almost 4 and Kylie is almost 5 months. I want another one when Kylie is almost 2, so they'll be a littl eover two years apart. My family keeps expecting me to get preggo sooner b/c of our track record, but I need to give some space. A lot of people tell me i'm crazy if I have any more kids b/c of the pric of college and what-not, but I can't imagine NOT having any more children! I love it and franky want 1 or 2 more, but people think i'm nuts! Our families would be happy for us, but I know my mom would have a few words about it, although she loves me and my children, she jsut doesn't understand having more than 2 children at all.....oh the decesiions!
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August 23rd, 2006, 06:22 PM
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Glad I am not the only one!!
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Madison Yvonne and Hailey Yvonne 1-12-00 identical twins, c section 32 weekers
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John Allen 4-4-06, VBAC 6 pounds 2 ounces 19 inches long
Paige Belle 5-21-07, VBAC 5 pounds 9 ounces 17 inches
Ava Marie 2-28-09, VBAC 5 pounds 10 ounces,16 1/2 inches
Jackson Douglas 2-13-13, VBAC 6 pounds 5 ounces, 19 inches
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August 24th, 2006, 03:10 PM
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Yes, everyone is happy for this pregnancy excpet his mother and his sister. And this is only our 4th child, we want 6. I know that they will become happy as the pregnancy progresses, but I don't like having to explain ourselves. His mom only had 2 kids, him and his older sister, and he wasn't supposed to be born, his dad got upset at his mom for getting pregnant, she was only allowed to have 1 child, well his dad got a visectomy after Mark was born, so his mom couldn't get pregnant again. We haven't told his dad about this baby yet, only because they live in another state and we haven't gotten around to it, but I know he will be happy for us. He regrets not having more kids with his current wife...I dunno.....
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