[Motherbird]

Have you ever secretly hoped for one and got the other instead?

I am sort of hoping for a boy this time and everybody I know or come across seems to think it's going to be a boy. All this makes me think it'll probably be a girl! I know I'll love a boy or a girl just the same, but I worry I may be slightly disappointed if I don't get a boy. Can anyone relate at all?

[mommy x 10]

Yes, with my last they couldn't tell if we were having a boy or girl. The last 3 had been girls and my son had prayed for a brother while my husband was in Iraq before we even conceived. Also I was wanting a boy more than the other times, so I just knew we were going to have a boy. Then when we had the baby-a girl. I have to admit, I was kind of surprised, I said a girl? I wouldn't call it disappointment, but I did wonder how my son would feel. Of course, as soon as I saw her I fell in love and was totally in love with her. And my son was fine with her being a girl, he has always been so very sweet with her and would sing to her. And now we are having a boy unless, she's a master of disguise. I know exactly what you mean, though, you'll absolutely love your child boy or girl, but you'd kind of prefer a boy. If you can even call it disappointment, it was more surprise for me, when you hear it's a one or the other, I'm sure once you see, hear, and hold the baby it won't matter. But I'm sure you know that.

[#5in2005]

I was convinced my third girl was a boy, just because everything was so different, plus her being a boy would have went well with my vision of having 2 boys and 2 girls. I was surprised that she was a girl, but not disappointed. My 4th girl was born premature, so her gender was the last thing we gave any thought, we just wanted her to be okay.

Now I am expecting our 5th, and after our experience last time it really really doesn't matter what gender the baby is.

not me
I love both
and I have plenty of both too