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Hey Ladies, I'm April and have been around JM for a couple of years although things have slowed down alot lately.
Let me tell you my situation, I'm really just looking for advice.
I have a 4 year old (she'll turn 4 in December) and Brody who will turn 2 March 23rd. I so desperately want to have another baby but I struggle day after day thinking of how I will divide up my time between three when it's already so hard with just 2. Neither of my kids are in preschool or daycare right now.. and I just struggle on what to do, if I can do it, and if they'll still get the affection and love they need and deserve a piece if we had another baby. I wanted to see if anyone else has felt this way and if you have any advice for myself or not..........
Any advice will be greatly appreciated and I will keep ya'll updated on our decision afterwards
I find that when you're in it, you don't know any different so you just manage. Things are quite hectic when your baby is just new, but once they settle into a routine then it's not so bad. It's hard for anyone to tell you what will work for you though, I love having a big family, but it's definetly not for everyone.
I think we all question from time to time if we are doing a good job as moms. But I really don't feel like my kids feel neglected because the attention has to be divided between 5 of them.
Your heart grows with each child, you will NOT run out of love, no way, no how, not a chance! You are here, we know you WANT another one...how does your DH feel about it, if he wants another, I say GO FOR IT! What is one more mouth to feed? It really isn't much of a diference...after the second, it actually gets easier...
Neither of my kids are in preschool or daycare right now.. and I just struggle on what to do, if I can do it, and if they'll still get the affection and love they need and deserve a piece if we had another baby.[/b]
None of mine have ever been in daycare & up until recently I've always had at least 2 at home. As for coping or giving everyone equal attention, it's like everyone else has said, you just do it automatically. It's not something you think about consciously.