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I feel so frustrated. It feels like everyone is getting pregnant or having babies, except me. A girl that I sometimes hang out with who has always talked about babies in the distant future tense just showed her first ultrasound picture on facebook. It felt like a kick in the gut. But then it kind of always does when someone that last I heard wasn't trying gets pregnant. I'm trying to console myself because for all I know she was trying now. I haven't seen her in probably over 6 months. Then there are all the other people that are around my age or younger who maybe just recently got married and they're all pregnant and beautiful or just had their babies and I'm just so jealous.
*sighs* I shouldn't be. But venting helps me feel a little better.
Last night, while cuddling after dtd, DH told me that he has pretty much given up on having kids. He isn't opposed to me doing whatever supplements or whatever, but he doesn't have much hope about it. He's just resigned himself to us being a childless couple.
I told him that I was thinking maybe I just need to work on losing weight again, and he said that would probably help both of us. But that was the last of that discussion.
He said something before all of this started about being afraid to go to the doctor (which I know he is) because he's afraid of getting a shot. I asked what he thought a shot would do and he said he didn't know, but doctor's always give a shot to fix things.
So, he's never even been to a urologist (which I knew) to see if there was an explanation or a fix to his reproductive issues. He's just decided that he's accepted the fact that he's a contributing factor and between both of our problems, we just won't have kids.
I am sorry he feels this way. He must however, realize that just because he goes to the Dr to get checked out does not mean they will be giving him a shot of any kind.
My DH and I had problems conceiving before I got pregnant with DD. I started using the mymonthlycycles.com Within 2 months I was pregnant. It might be worth a shot and it is free which was great!
Keep you head up and try to talk to your DH and express how important having a child is to you and just going to have a talk with a Dr is not the same as getting a needle. I hope things work out for you.
I use Fertility Friend which I imagine is similar to mymonthlycycles... But I'll take a look there too.
I've been playing with some supplements and I may have finally ovulated again (fertility friend seems to think it's a possibility) And randomly DH and I did dtd right around the right time, so maybe my prayers will be answered even though DH 'gave up.'
Oh, and he knows how important it is to me to have a child. I have told him more than once that I never really cared about being married. The one thing I always wanted my whole life was to be a mom. I just figured the easiest way to do that and still be accepted by my family was to get married. :-p But he just doesn't want to spend a lot of money on it and only increase our chances to "the same 50/50 that everyone else has." Maybe I just chose the wrong man to go the 'easy way.'
Just kidding. I do love my husband and if it never happens I am happy with it being the two of us and our cats. But that doesn't stop the ache in my heart and womb.
 I just went to that mymonthlycycles.com site, and I used to use it before I switched to FertilityFriend. haha I just couldn't remember what the name was but when I went there I recognized it.