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April 9th, 2011, 11:17 AM
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My girls are very different for twins. Lucy is possessive and prone to hitting/biting/tantrums, while Leigh is passive and can't defend herself if her sister takes a toy. I am at my wits' end because poor Leigh is constantly harassed by Lucy and I basically spend the entire day putting Lucy in time-out and telling her to apologize. Literally dozens of times each day. She usually apologizes, but it obviously doesn't mean anything to her because she goes right on misbehaving (I know she knows what "sorry" means, though, because she uses it in context sometimes when she's in a good mood). I feel like Lucy is acting out more because I'm constantly disciplining her and cuddling Leigh, so it's a vicious cycle. Lucy is better when I spend alone time with her, but realistically as the SAHM of three kids under three I can't spend much alone time with her at all, especially since my husband works 24 and 48 hour shifts, so there is no set time of day I can be alone with any of my kids.

Any suggestions? lol I know Lucy is a special case, but I was hoping I'm not alone and that someone has found a solution!
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April 9th, 2011, 06:33 PM
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I have a twin who is constantly picking on the other, I try to remain fair and consistent, but he's got to understand that he needs to behave nicely to siblings, irregardless of being a twin. I find that at around 3, they finally get the concept of discipline and remorse and sharing. My twins look the same, but have very different personalities when it comes to play, and they need different forms to discipline. Arthur is my biter, my boys are 22 months adjusted age, hard age to reinforce discipline, and his constant target is Theo. Its kind of funny since Arthur was always the passive one until recently. Then I stepped out of it, and let him fight his own battles, and now I've got a monster
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April 9th, 2011, 08:43 PM
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Sorry, I don't have any suggestions. Both of my kids are bullies with strong personalities. They can hold their own with each other. I have to step in sometimes, but sometimes I just let them duke it out. I hope you get some help/suggestions from other people with older twins.
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