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January 11th, 2010, 03:31 AM
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I'm so happy that there are mommies that can relate to how I feel in the ddc. But still, having sat in a ddc after one loss, and now after two, those insecurities are WAY amped. I don't wanna freak anyone out, but I'm yearning to connect with someone on this. A good friend on fb was as preg. as I am, but she lost her little one yesterday.

Just needed to vent. First appt is at 3:15.
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January 11th, 2010, 07:25 AM
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You always have us here. I actually just took a break from our DDC because a friend from my Jan. 08 PR just gave birth to her son and he was stillborn and it brought back all the emotions from losing Eli and I needed to take a break from the naive, happy pregnant people in the DDC. But, there are actually a lot of ladies in our DDC who have experienced loss (mostly miscarriages) and will understand if you need to freak out a little bit.
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January 11th, 2010, 07:53 AM
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I started going into my DDC just to read posts and still not sure if I want to join or not. Most of the ladies there are so happy and naive even though I noticed that a lot of women had miscarriages. But the majority seems to beleive that after 12 weeks there is nothing to worry about. I think if I start adding my comments there, they start hating me.
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January 11th, 2010, 08:31 AM
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I don't know, I always worried about talking about Cora, but it has always turned out to be a positive experience in the end. I think the most awkwardness came from others' being afraid to "hurt" my feelings by asking questions or bringing her up. I always have been very open and encouraged them to ask questions and such. And while there were no late losses in Erin's DDC (I honestly don't think I would have been able to handle it then), there were two in Patrick's (one at 17 weeks, and then Jenny [Deleketala]).

granted, I don't post in Erin's PR and am feeling less and less like I fit in to Patrick's... (sigh)

ANYWAY, Heather, best of luck for your appointment today!!
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January 11th, 2010, 12:37 PM
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Heather when are you due? The June DDC has me and another mom who had a stillbirth near full term...as well as many with some earlier losses. Actually several of the moms are members of PAL as well. YOu won't freak us out! And if you are freaking out, post here or in PAL. I feel safer doing that.
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January 11th, 2010, 01:38 PM
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I was nervous about joining a DDC, but my DDC has been absolutely wonderful about Ethan and they were all amazingly supportive when I lost the triplets. I even went so far as to call another member on the phone and urge her to go to L&D because her symptoms at the time resembled an amniotic fluid leak and a baby in distress. Everything turned out to be fine and nobody got mad at me for scaring her, she thanked me profusely for caring.
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