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I'm just trying to prepare for my first visit with my doctor.
I'm really worried that i'm going to be treated like I never lost a baby...I don't know if they do more visits, extra ultrasounds etc...Do you know what standard is for someone who has had a stillbirth? Should I Tell him that I want extra care? I read that sometimes they see you more, but I haven't really been able to find more info on it....I'm just so worried that I won't get ultrasounds, and i'm going to constantly worry that something is wrong...I'm not usually the kind of person who even calls my doctor when i'm worried about something because I don't like to bother people, but this time i'm going to have to be more up front on things and not worry about that....So I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions and things I should talk to my doctor about on my first visit...I'd really like to bring in a sheet of paper with everything on it beause I tend to forget things.
It is standard to have extra visits and ultrasounds. And from what I've seen, most doctors are pretty understanding of what we've been through and will really accommodate your needs and be helpful with your anxieties.
My doctor usually sees you at 8 weeks, and at around 6 weeks you go in to see the nurse and do a pap/blood work, go over things etc...Well the woman I talked to didn't even set me up for an appointment at around 6-7 weeks with the nurse and made my appointment with my doctor at 10 weeks...This will be my 3rd pregnancy with him and he always sees you at 8 weeks for an ultrasound...Should I call and explain that I did just lose a baby 3 months ago and I want to be seen sooner? I have so much I want to go over with him, I have so many questions about this pregnancy and my last...Waiting till March 2nd seems so far a way...I just worry that people will think i'm just being difficult....Not to mention I need to find out about my thyroid issues and what they are going to do to watch them.
I'd go ahead and call and request to be seen sooner. I know my doctor is going to be keeping a closer eye on me and told me that if I was worried/thought something was wrong to call anytime and I could have an ultrasound or whatever. He said even if my insurance doesn't cover them, he would give me pretty much as many ultrasounds as I want to make me feel ok.
I've been wondering about the same thing. I haven't yet made an appointment because dh and I were deciding if we were going to go back to the same doctor. Finally, we decided to go with the same doctor as we don't think he did anything wrong. Plus I think now he will take even a better care of me. I am thinking of making an appointment for 2nd week of February.
I think all Dr's are different. I did have an u/s at 12 weeks because they wanted to see if they could look at her brain that early (since Katrina had the enlarged ventricles), but 12 weeks was way too early. I had my next u/s at 18 weeks and then went back at 20 weeks just to double check everything is well.
My OB said it wasn't mandatory for me to have any more after that, since Sweet Pea is doing well. The only reason I had one at 27 weeks was because I was becoming a nervous wreck and my OB wanted to just ease my mind that everything is still going well! (I do have one more at 36 weeks, but that wasn't one that was originally supposed to be done, but they just want to double check something from the 27 week one).
I was also very surprised when my OB said that since I had a stillbirth previously that we would consider inducing me a bit earlier - probably at around 39 weeks. I would've thought that because my loss with Katrina was a lot earlier that they wouldn't even consider that. I'm not going to lie, it makes me feel so much more at ease knowing that I have the opportunity to be induced slightly earlier than my due date (as long as Sweet Pea and my body are ready)!
I went with a new OB for this pregnancy and sat down with him before I even knew I was pregnant to go over the test results from my stillbirth and previous pregnancy. I had a lot of concerns and questions for him. During that time, we talked about what my care would be like for another pregnancy. He told me about the monthly growth scans and weekly/2x-weekly NST's and how my appointments would probably be more frequent than a "normal" pregnancy. It really helped put my mind at ease that they were really going to monitor this pregnancy. He's been more than wonderful if I ever feel concerned about something to go back and do more testing or have me come in for an unscheduled NST just to make me feel better.
I would probably try and call and schedule an appointment a little sooner than 10 weeks, stating you'd like to discuss some things with your OB because of the outcome of your previous pregnancy. I know mine are all listed on the insurance as "poor obsetrical outcome" or something like that, so I know my insurance covers everything.
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I got a call today from my thyroid doctor...My OB sent them over a note letting them know i'm pregnant again...I did get my blood taken on friday...I'm just waiting for a call back about my medication...I think i'm going to call my doctor's office tomorrow and ask if there is any way I can get in sooner....I know it will only be 2 weeks sooner, but I think that shouldn't be a big deal, I hope they don't give me a hard time...Oh and my thyroid doctor's office seemed mad at me...I'm not sure if it was just me or what...My mom said they have no buisness being mad, it's not their choice...I just hope no one gives me a hard time...Even my OB told me that if I do end up getting pregnant on accident, it's not the end of the world.
Do you think they seem mad at you because you're expecting them to be? I know I've done that before. And I'm betting it wouldn't be anger...just concern. But like your OB said, it's not the end of the world.
Anyway, I hope you get into your OB sooner. Good luck!
Yes, I think that i felt that way because i was expecting them to be mad at me...That's just how I am, i'm always thinking people are mad at me even when they aren't....I guess i'll see for sure when I go in.
They called me back and upped my thyroid meds, so they must of been low...I'm glad that I got it done so soon, since low thyroid levels aren't usually good in pregnancy, and esp considering I don't have a thyroid at all...They also set up lab work for me to go get my blood taken once a month....I have an appointment with the endo on March 25th...They wanted to know if I was still going to go to seattle to the cancer specialist....I really don't see the need to, since it was to go talk about getting pregnant again, and well it's too late now....if for some reason they are worried about something they see on bloodwork/ultrasound I would, but as of right now if i'm healthy, then I won't go.
Yeah, I was afraid that my OB was going to be mad at me for getting pregnant with Erin before 6 months was over from delivering Cora, but it turns out that he had been asking his nurses if I had called or anything all summer. =p
I'm glad that hey caught the thyroid thing. I'm on thyroid meds, so I understand (I still have mine, it's just lazy). It's so scary, but I'm sure they weren't low enough to do any harm, especially since you've caught it this soon.
yeah my doctor told me to wait 6 months too, and plus I was supposed to do my radiation treatment, plus 6+ months after that to have another baby....I think that would of killed me to wait that long
How many months after did you get pregnant?
My neck is still bothering me almost 4 months since my surgery, i'm not even sure if that's normal...I was still recovering from that when I found out about Ella, and it all kind of got pushed aside and forgotten about.