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We just found out I'm pregnant with my rainbow baby, due 2/20. I'm just terrified. I want to be excited and part of me is, but I have also, just like you all I'm sure, no longer have that veil over my eyes and I know first hand that babies can die and everything doesnt always work out. I'm just so scared. I want this baby so badly. I feel like I cant show my feelings to my SO I feel like I have to be the one that is strong and I just don't think I can be the one that is strong all the time.
It's so hard, it really is. I hope you get to the point where you can show your SO both good and bad.
With both my subsequent pregnancies I had to just tell myself "Everything is okay right now. Everything is okay right now." If I let myself think too far in the future the anxiety got the better of me.
I have no advice on how to master the anxiety, but I do have boat loads of sympathy! The only thing I found I can do is concentrate on the moment and push away all the 'what ifs' etc. There's no doubt about it, being pregnant after stillbirth is a monster all it's own.
I don't know what to tell you at this point as I'm going thru this myself right now. I'm so incredibly nervous and scared where before I was so laid-back about pregnancy. Just take it day by day and hope for the best. That's what I try to do anyway.
Yep, I am in your DDC. My presence in DDC's is usually limited, though. My reactions and experiences tend to be a bit different and I am concerned about offending people with my signature or, if I share my story or worries, that I will freak out people unnecessarily. I have been testing the waters here and there, but a lot of the posts are about buying things and picking names and I don't know if I will ever be able to bring myself to plan to bring a baby home. I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer, but it is just the way it is. They seem like a lovely group of women, though. I quite like them.
I too would love to post serious things but am afraid of scaring or freaking out the other mommies to be. How can you tell a mommy who is pregnant with her first child that you are afraid you won't bring yours home because you have already buried a baby? I'm glad I have a safe haven here where I can express my more serious concerns. But am also thankful for the ladies there, talking about the light fluffy things takes my mind off my worries, if only for a minute.