[rf828_3]

Hello everyone!

I'm new here as my husband & I are trying to concieve again & I thought this time around I would get some support cuz, lets face it, it's hard every month to find out that you're still not pregnant!!

I got married a little over 2 years ago & last year, my husband & I decided to start trying to have a baby! I was so excited as I've always wanted children! I'd been on the pill for a year so I knew it could take some time. We are also both a bit older than some as I'm in my late 30's & he is in his mid 40's. My husband also had testicular cancer 15 years ago which was cured through surgery, so no Chemo, but he lost one... My OBGYN assured me that we could still get pregnant without a problem & told me to come back to see her if we weren't pregnant in 6 months. We tried for 5 months, & I even used an ovulation predictor the last two months, but nothing happened. It was a blessing in disguise, as my husband suddenly lost his job after that. We stopped trying for the year he was unemployed, but I did not go back on the pill as I wanted to be ready to try again once we were ready to continue. Now that he has a new job & Great insurance, & has been working for a little over a month now, we are ready to continue on our journey!!

Now that we are ready to begin trying again, I'm scared because now I'm a year older, & I'm worried about how long this will take & of miscarriages that could also occur. I know it's not good to worry, but it's difficult not to think about it. I'm also not sure how long we should try this time before we seek help? Do we try again for 6 months before we go see someone, or should I begin by seeing someone? Our insurance won't cover infertility things so I have to take that into consideration as well, but am willing to pay for it if it's really needed.

The other thing on my mind is that I Nanny for a 5 yr old girl, & her little 2 yr old sister who was diagnosed will Leukemia last January. She'll be entering maintenance after the next 16 weeks after her intense Chemo/LP's/Radiation is finally finished. People just don't realize what these kids go through, they really don't. Loosing thier hair is the least of thier worries & though the hair grows back during maintenance, they are getting Daily Chemo, so the inside of thier body is tired, worn down, & falling apart. Maintenance is also the time during which the parents are scared out of their minds since this is usually when the kids relapse & also when other people (not the parents) mistakenly think these kids are "getting better". I'm pretty sure the mouth sores, bottom sores, joint pain, muscle weakness, & constant concern for organ failure & septic shock going on inside, doesn't look the way the outside of them does. I love this little girl & I worry about her too. I also worry about how my pregnancy if/when I get pregnant will impact their family. They need me. I need to be there for them, & I'm worried that my pregnancy could cause issues though the mother is fully in support of me getting pregnant, knows my plans, & is even saving baby stuff for me ! I'm also hoping I get pregnant quick as if I do, & If it's a match, the cord blood from the umbilical cord could give her a life saving transplant if she does relapse which could save her life at no harm to myself or my baby. I urge all of you to donate your cord blood!! (they throw it away if it's not donated!!) It's free for you & it will save some other child's life. I even met a Newborn baby with Leukemia when Paige was in the hospital last time. This is a new transplant that is saving children who cannot find a match for bone marrow or have relapsed after a bone marrow transplant. Cord blood transplants have a Much higher success rate & are the Last chance a child has after they can no longer tolerate Chemo or bone marrow won't or doesn't work. Sorry, I guess this is close to my heart!

Anyway, if anyone else has suggestions on how to increase chances on getting pregnant & also any good advice on whether we should see a Dr right away, or wait & try a while first, please share your insight!! Take Care all, & I wish you all a very Merry Christmas!!

[melissamarie247]

If it is within your means, I would say see a doctor to get some pre-pregnancy counseling. Ive been trying for about a year. I am an Army Wife, so the health care system only sees me as a number. I eventually got tired and demanded a referral to another doctor. We live in Germany now so the doctor is out on the German economy and I am so happy I took that risk. I found out I had PCOS when the doctor did an internal ultrasound and some bloodwork to really see what is going on. My next appointment is next week where he is going to go over all medication options to get me on the right track and explain everything fully to me. I am hoping in the next 3 months to conceive now. I am 23, but if I were in my 30s, I would be determined even more to figure out how to make this happen. Best wishes to you. =)