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I am completely torn at the moment and really need some advice… First let me give you a little back-end so you all know where I am coming from…
My husband is my best friends – we have been together for 10 years, married for 3 years and we have a 2 year old… Before our wedding we discovered my tubes were severely damaged and for us to have kids would be difficult… our child is the fruit of our wedding night… yes she is our blessing!... now hubby and I will be going on our very first vacation since having our daughter we will be going with another couple our age who do not have kids… when we travel we always take our daughter – to me teaching her basic fundamentals make a difference – by basic I mean planes, different cultures she gets to see and interact with… I really want to take my daughter on this trip but I am torn between her and my husband… my husband wants to take her too but something inside of me tells me we are overdue for an “adult vacation”… but when I think about not bringing my daughter to this vacation I get emotional and feel she deserves to be there too… I really would love nothing more but to enjoy 7 days with just my husband but I feel guilty leaving my daughter at her grandparents…. Then I think leaving her at her grandparents would also give her some independence from her parents – it would teach her that mommy and daddy also need time to themselves and its ok for mommy and daddy to go on vacation without the baby… but I am torn from being a wife and a mother! I feel like I am being a horrible mom just by posting this!
I am so torn… I cant decide what is best not just for my family but my marriage…
I'm glad you've figured out what's best for your family !!!!! Just member that she does need time without mommy and daddy also (maybe not 7 days.. lol). I only say that bc I just put my son in daycare (he's almost three) and this has been the most horrible experience for the both of our. He is having separation problems... but we are working through them.