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My name's Desiree, I'm new here. I have two beautiful children. Nick (just turned 7) and Liana (almost 5). My son was diagnosed with ADHD (combined, non-aggressive type) when he was 5. He is not on medication. His 'symptoms' for lack of a better word were managed well with behavior plans and modifications.
The past couple of months his crying, frustration, and ATTITUDE have increased beyond anything I could ever imagine. He is such a sweet boy and he now cries at the drop of a dime if he doesn't get his way or is frustrated. He is and always has been excellent at communicating. But for whatever reason he has increasingly experienced melt downs over silly things. When I try to calmly talk to him, he raises his voice and acts irrational, then of course I get angry and before you know it I'm in a screaming match with my 7 year old and I feel pathetic!
What is worse is I have worked with children with mental, behavioral, and emotional health issues since college. I have a MA degree in counseling psychology! But it's so different when it's your own child.
I know yelling does nothing but make matters worse, but I am at my wits end. I am not opposed to meds, but have tried to use that option as a last resort. Because I work in this field I have seen the benefits, but also all of the negative aspects of med use. His behavior per say is not the issue, just his level of frustration over silly little matters and the way he reacts to it. He was doing well with emotion control prior to these past few months. I don't know if all of this crying is a manifestation of the ADHD or another thing all together or just normal development for the age. Are meds the answer? Is it that time and I just don't want to admit it?? Aside from my own feelings, it hurts me that he is so frequently upset and frustrated. These melt downs happen at least once a day.
Any advice or words of encouragement are greatly appreciated!