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Hi.. I know what I say and other's say may never sway your decision on having a baby.. But before you do jump in and make that plunge.. Do me a favor??? Sit down and write down all the pros and cons on having a baby at your age... Believe me I am 28 and at my age I still have a hard time.. I know that a baby brings joy and love... And what happens when you do get pregnant and your boyfriend moves on.. I have seen this many times... I want to list some things for you to consider..
1.. Average day care for an infant is 15+ dollars a day...
2... For 1 month of Formula is $120+
3... Diapers run $50+ a month
4.. Babies in the first few months wake up on average every to hours a night... Say goodbye to sleep for awhile..
5.. A baby needs your undying attention 24/7... It is not a doll that you just can lay down and forget..
6.. Babies have to have their checkups and immunizations.. Unless you have insurance.. This is costly.
7. Most baby items do not come cheap...
infant seats $50+
Clothing $75+++++ They grow out of them so fast...
medicine (tylenol, gas drops) $4 a bottle and you'll go through plenty
bathing supplies$25 Which you have to keep restocking
Ok here is another question... And please respond to this letter... Are you and your boyfriend financially capable to have and raise a child? Babies don't come cheap.. So I do wish you would hold on to your feelings to conceive until you are a little older and a little more financially stable...
hi there my name is darla, i am 32 years old and my daughter will be 15
in july, iwas 16 when i got pregnant with her, i was so in love with her dad i thought we would be together forever! we just knew we both wanted a baby but when she came he went out and kept doing all the fun stuff and i stayed home with my beautiful little baby girl. well needless to say, that didn't last very long, i left him because he was so immature! i had to get on welfare to care for my baby,
and believe me it wasn't much, plus i didn't finish school! i was lucky because i got together with my husband not long after that and he's 11 yrs older than me so he was ready to be dad and husband. but you should understand that its not all fun, its a constant responsibility, when your sick, when your pissed off, when you JUST DON"T FEEL LIKE DEALING WITH IT, the baby is still there! alot of times they cry for hours and you don't know why, they get sick and are up all night, they get diarhea and poop EVERYWHERE! And guess who has to take care of all of that YOU
do, you can't just turn them off and put them away when you want to go somewhere with your friends, and if things don't work out between you and your bf
there are'nt alot of guys your age that want a girlfriend with a baby! once it's done you can't take it back! it's one of those moments in your life that changes it forever!
All i'm saying is that i have been in your shoes and felt just like you do, it sounds so romantic it really does!
but i'm thinking back right now to all those long nights of crying, teething, her being sick, all the times i thought i would pull all my hair out if she didn't just stop crying! and i wonder if you really trully understand what it is to have a baby
Now understand that i love her with every breath in my body but its a huge responsibility
i hope it all turns out good for you
That's what i would tell my daughter about getting pregnant right now.
I know how that is i am only 18 and i have a 14 month son and i am pregnant again and the frist 3 months with jacob were hard! if it wasnt for my moms help with money i wouldnthave a baby, i cant get a job because i dont have a ged and no experince, i only get 100 a month from food stamps, i am luckey i get medicid again for jacobs beacuse i am pregnant and i am luckey i am on wic too it is a good thing that jacob aint using formaula anymore that saves alot of money, i know how every one plans to dress there kids in desginer clothes and stuff i though i would too but it is i can only aford second hand clothes for my baby some time hell get new clothes from walmarts lol, and he is going threw diapers so much, i dont understand why anyone would want to have a baby at 15, i can understand the wanting to care for some one and wanting some on to depend on u but gurl it is ###### hard! we spend atlest 3 hunderd on jacob a month on food diapers bath lotion and everything else