Anyone????

ccwantsbfp · #1 February 20th, 2009, 06:13 PM

So, I am not new to this board and some of you may remember one or two of my posts that went dead and I mainly post in TTC with MA. Is this just a secondary post to the Sanctuary? How can we get more posts here....anyone have some ideas?

Updated: This is not a heated debated posting

txjovigal · #2 February 20th, 2009, 07:04 PM

cc,

You have to understand that we have a small community in the MFI board so sometimes our board doesn't move as fast as others. We have to work at it. So if posts don't get answered its because those of us that post here don't have all the answers. Within our small community, we do have very active posters. Those posters have been granted access to the Sanctuary because they are truly ACTIVE.. and because MFI is an extremely sensitive topic and they don't want the world to know what is happening.

Yes, you do post here on our board and have since January but you have not been consistent in your posts. You come and go, which if all our posters did that would lead to an even slower board. I am sorry if that offends you but it is the truth.

ccwantsbfp · #3 February 21st, 2009, 09:40 AM

Your not offending me...me TTC with MFI is no less important than anyone else. This is not my concern only, it's a small community but keep in mind that new comers are coming and we don't mind putting in the work to get access. I'm getting very important test done with dh and want to get people who may not post here in the same situation to post. You post on the other board and have giving a lot of us support so maybe I can PM you when my test come up. I'm not asking for anyone's private information. I am here for support during some of the hardest times...

txjovigal · #4 February 21st, 2009, 03:34 PM

That's what this board is here for.. SUPPORT! and if you have ever felt that you weren't getting it then again, I am sorry. I have never not felt the support I needed from this group of ladies.

I will welcome newcomers any day and hope that they will feel the support that I have felt from this board.

richmond_girl · #5 February 21st, 2009, 05:24 PM

Anyone is welcome to post questions on this board. It's a public board and we're all here to support each other on what can be an incredibly frustrating journey. MFI is also a frightening diagnosis for many and our goal is to reduce some of that fear by providing knowledge and advice whenever we can.

I went back quickly through our posts and we are a slow board- no doubt about that. But in the past month, there have been at least 10 "newbies" or "non-regulars" who have posted questions on this board. Everything from "My husband has ED" to "We just found out we are dealing with zero sperm... what do we do?" Every single one of those posts was responded to. I know, speaking from personal experience, that whenever someone posts a question related to azoospermia or oligoospermia, I spend a LOT of time preparing very detailed responses for that person. Not because I want the recognition (who wants to be known as the MFI expert?) but because I know what these girls are going through and I want to help them by 1) reassuring that they are not alone, 2) letting them know it's not the end of the world, and 3) sharing the research that I have spent hours (days) collecting on these issues. Most of those girls never come back and that's ok; it's everyone's personal choice whether they want to stay. But that doesn't change my decision to want to help them.

The Sanctuary is just an area where very active members can post in private. We're not the only board that has a private sub-forum. Most of the TTC forums (except TTCwMA for some reason) have a private forum, and the requirements for access are similar - active membership for x days + a certain number of posts. It's nothing new.

As far as increasing traffic on this main board, I agree with Esmy - there's not much we can do other than continue to welcome newbies and respond to their questions, which as I mentioned before, I think we do very well. The reality is, MFI is a heavily stigmatized topic and some people will just never be comfortable sharing their story in a public forum. But if they do, then we're all here for them.

Just my two cents!

txjovigal · #6 February 21st, 2009, 05:39 PM

I couldn't have said it better myself Juli!!! Thanks!

ccwantsbfp · #7 February 22nd, 2009, 09:05 AM

Julie...thanks for replying to this post and you have been a great support for me(I won't stalk your posts so i'll use I statements). I just want to clarify(I think i'll edit the topic to reflect this) that this post is not to get anyone to defend or imply that ANYONE can't come here. If any newcomer that I have PM'd feels okay weighing in feel free but I have found that a lot of them are going somewhere else or isolating. I intially came here in December(you can stalk that fact if you want) to post my dh's SA after TTC with MA members sent me here.

Once again...this is not a post for attacking or defending a community that is not divided...

The reality is, MFI is a heavily stigmatized topic and some people will just never be comfortable sharing their story in a public forum. But if they do, then we're all here for them.

I agree and my dh