Amen Heather. A lot of people have to find out what works that particular child.
I got my rear end tore up on a regular basis when I was a kid, lol. I had an older brother whose stuff got blamed on me, lol. I turned out relatively fine

But when I do spank my children I will make sure that they are scared to death of me, and understand I love them. And I won't spank them if I'm very angry, because it tends to be transferred.