[*KittyCat*]

I haven’t posted in here before, but I was hoping you could give me some help advice.

My DF and I have been TTC for a year now; we started in April last year and have had no luck at all. My DF had an undescended testicle when he was born that wasn’t corrected until he was about 7. I think it was only one; it’s not something he really likes to talk about. He also had a bad case of mumps when he was in his early twenties.
I’ve been doing some research into the possible causes of our delays and these two things it seems could be an issue.

Are any of you ladies familiar with either of these conditions being a cause for problems in conceiving? If so, what are you doing and what help are you getting? Also, this is a delicate issue with DF, how did you go about suggesting further investigation? (not just for him, but both of us) because then that’s like admitting that something could be wrong and I know he’ll be especially devastated if any fertility issues are down to his prior problems.

If it does turn out there is a problem with his fertility because of this, what is the outlook?

[txjovigal]

My first suggestion would be that your DH should get a SA done. Without that you don't know if you even have any issues.

Hugs!

[RainyDayGirl]

Also, if you are worried he will be touchy when you suggest he has a test, you can go for the his-and-hers package and get your FHS (or is it FSH?) tested on the third day of your period as well. That way you've done the first step in testing on both of you and he won't feel singled out. Good luck, and welcome to TTC w/MFI!

[*KittyCat*]

hi girls, thanks for your replies. I think it all has been playing on his mind because he came home from work last night and basically said he thought something was wrong and that i should be pregnant by now. I suggested that we both go to the docs for a check up for both of us and he was like "So you think there's something wrong?! I don't want to go to the doctors, I don't understand why it's taking so long, it shoudln't take this long" etc etc etc

But, still wouldn't entertain the idea of going to the docs, the give a sample and have an examination. I tried telling him, that i'd have to have tests done too, but it didn't make a difference. He seems very worried and distant now, it's playing on his mind.

[Brandiwine77]

Men relate their 'manhood' to their manhood. Just have a very open and honest talk with him. Remind him that it can take 12 months for a normal healthy couple with no issues to get pregnant. Then tell him that you would like both of you to have some very basic tests to check for any issues, because if there is any issue, the sooner it is discovered, the sooner measures can be taken to fix the issues, whether its him or you. Just remind him that even if there is a male issue, it doesn't make him any less of a man. Would he think you were any less woman if you had an issue? I hope he can see your point of view. Good luck!