Hi, Aimee and

to our board here! We're a small group, and we don't always check in every day, so I apologize for not responding sooner. I'm Becky (35), DH is Tony (35). We started our TTC journey back in December 2007 and found out this year that along with my PCOS, we're dealing with severe MFI. My DH's 1st s/a also showed zero sperm and it was a shock to deal with. I felt like I just got sucker punched. The RE ordered another s/a on him, and unfortunately for us, it too showed zero sperm. From that point, we were referred to a urologist to get more information. Having zero sperm in the s/a could be caused by a number of factors, so try not to stress about it too much at this point. And I completely know that is easier said then done, but please try. Some of the reasons for zero sperm showing in the s/a are fixable or treatable, and there is a a chance you can have a biological child from both of you. But you won't know this yet until you get the results from the 2nd s/a and you will probably have to see a urologist as well. I know a few ladies here, their DH/SO have undergone various surguries/procedures to treat/fix the issue. This may be what's needed for you. There are also several ladies here, who've their DH/SO have had the spermies retrieved directly from the testees and they proceeded with IVF. Each case is so different for each of us.
It is different for everyone, so please don't think my story will be the case for you, as there can be multiple reasons for zero sperm in your DH's s/a as well as hopefully there being multiple options for treatment/fixing the problem. For us though, there is no treatment for my DH's MFI and it's not able to be fixed. The urologist ordered a lot of additional bloodwork, did a physical exam, and recommended a biopsy of the testees. They had the blood results for us, when DH went in for the biopsy, and we were devastated to find out that DH had been born with an extra chromosome and our chances were very slim of him having any spermies. The biopsy showed zero sperm anywhere, so we have no chance now of having a child connected biologically to both of us.
And just as there are different reasons for MFI, different treatments, etc., each couple has to choose what they are comfortable with in proceeding with TTC. In our case, DH & I took several months off TTC to deal with this emotionally (which I strongly recommend doing). Our decision is to proceed using donor sperm. This is my 2nd cycle.
I'm keeping all my crossables crossed that your DH's 2nd s/a has much better results!! Keep us posted!!