[Clare]

As you know, I live in the UK. We have a waiting list for IVF and it could be as long as a 4 year wait on the NHS (National Health Service). If we use the NHS the treatment is free.

I have been doing some research and found that if we went used a private healthcare hospital it would cost about £4000 per cycle. There is an egg donation scheme that you can use and if you get accepted you can get your IVF treatment at a reduced cost. So basically you give some of your eggs to a couple and in return the clinic gives you a reduced cost. New laws in the UK now state that any child that is a result of an egg or sperm donor has the right to trace their original parent at the age of 18.

How would you feel about donating eggs to get cheaper IVF?

I have thought about it a lot. At first I though it was something that I could do but after thinking about it again, i wasnt too sure. I dont know that i could cope if i never got pregnant and then 18 years down the line a child tried to trace me after being born from one of my donated eggs. I havent discussed this with Dh yet as i still done really know how i feel myself about it - but it is an option.

[Hoosier Kitty]

I don't like the idea of knowing my eggs went out there and there's my biological child out there. I'm not ready to think about this on this route.

[BeckyM]

I've thought about it, but now that I've hit age 35 and with having PCOS, I don't think I'm a candidate for it. Here it will cost us @ $11,000 (can be higher) for each IVF cycle. If we do a guaranteed money back program, it's @ $20,000-$25,000 and covers up to 6 cycles or once you have that successful delivery. Ouch! Considering that we're using donor sperm, I'm already aware that our children will have half siblings around the country/world and we're fine with that. I actually am part of another online group in where I've met "online" other ladies who have children with the same donor. I feel our children should have info about their background and I'm open to meeting with these mothers and out children meeting as well. It'll be a large extended family for them. With donor eggs, I look at it the same way. If I meet the criteria, I'd probably not have problems doing it.

I had never thought about it before in my life. Now that we are having difficulties ttc, I've been thinking about it more. I think that after we find out where we're at with Adam's sperm and we find out when/what we need to do to have a baby, I would like to donate eggs. I know that it would mean some couple who is unable to have a child themselves, could with donor eggs. Having donor sperm as an option means even if Adam has no sperm I will still be able to be pregnant and I would like to give that option to some other family who wants a baby as bad as DH and I do, but can't do it themselves. The idea of having half-biological children somewhere doesn't really bother me and if they did choose to find me I would have no problem with that either.