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[christylovesherbaby]

I'm actually pretty forthright with people. I used to hide the facts, and sidetrack the question, but eventually just decided to come out of the infertility closet. I don't often go into details about exactly what our fertility problem is, but most know that Brianna is an IVF baby, and that we are going to try IVF again next month. It's a tricky situation, and I guess it depends on just how close the people you will be seeing tomorrow are to you. Hugs and good luck!

[Daisee37]

When we were TTC #1, I didn't tell anyone about our infertility, so I pretty much didn't even tell anyone we were TTC. When people asked when we were going to start having kids, I usually just blew off the question with something like "I don't know... not anytime in the next 9 months." Now, the people who know me well also know that we ARE TTC and that we have infertility issues, so I just say "we ARE trying, but it takes a while." For people I don't know that well, I still just blow it off because I just don't feel like going into the whole discussion.

Some close family members know exactly what we're dealing with, but I have some family members who [I]still[I] tell us to just relax and it will happen and as much as I want to say " How with 0 sperm do you think relaxing will help?" I just tell them we're not trying right now with the economy the way it is we want to wait a little bit. I'm not sure what I'll say when the economy gets better, but hopefully I'll be pregnant at least if not already have a baby by then! LOL Other than family none of our friends even know we're trying, so thats not an issue.

[*babylove*]

i get asked daily if i have kids or if we plan to. Since we have been married 5 years people really start to pry. I just say maybe in a few years.

[*Mommy2Remington*]

I get asked all the time and I usually just say "We're working on it" ...then of course they ask how long we've been trying. I just say "over a year" THEN they say "Ah, just relax and it will happen" OMG!! Makes me wanna scream when they say that so I will then tell them the truth about MFI and my endometriosis and explain why 'relaxing' about it will not help.

[christylovesherbaby]

Keri. I get so tired of the "relax, it'll happen when you stop trying" line. If a whole lot of shots in my abdomen and derriere, many visits requiring my feet in stirrups, and my husband's many romantic rendezvous with plastic cups count as relaxing, then I'm well on my way.

[Tammyms]

For me it depends who and how they ask... I actually had a co-worker ask me a full lunch table of co-workers if we were trying! VERY inappropriate and I let her know that! I've actually started telling people we may not be able to, I just don't tell them why, they usually stop asking after I say that. Between my PCOS and DH's counts, that's not far from the truth. We can't afford the time or money for IVF so if we have to get to that point, there will be no children for us. People usually realize they've hit a nerve when they and also realize that it's not easy for everyone and that maybe they shouldn't get so personal if they don't want to hear the truth