I cant help but think

babydreamin17 · #1 April 12th, 2010, 05:31 AM

that we are not on the same page sometimes in this whole new adventure of TTC anymore.

He has his appointment on Wednesday at 2pm. I reminded him again this morning so he can tell his work and take the time to go- and that I have to remind my childcare parents again. He then tells me that "I don't HAVE to go. Maybe I don't want you to be there".

This just hurt me....

I know maybe its a man thing and his pride since his count is low and all... but come on! We are IN this together. No, he didn't go back with me during the procedures I've had done (testing, blood-work, u/s) but he COULD have.. I never told him I didn't want him to. It just hurt I guess when she said that....

I'd like to go in to be there for him, so he knows he ain't "alone" and for support... and to really hear what the doc says. I'm sure everyone agrees when you go to the doc, its sometimes important to have someone else with you, so they can get all they are telling you to- I mean, he may miss a little but important detail, ya know?!

IDK what will happen. His comments and tone made me think he doesn't want this as much as me, and it just breaks my heart. If I talk to him about this, he will just get mad and say I'm to sensitive and look into things "way to much". Guess we will just see what will happen on Wednesday.

Hoosier Kitty · #2 April 12th, 2010, 08:48 AM

Give it time.. ask him again on tue night if he want you to go... if he says no.. then tell him ok let me know if you need anything. call me when u get out. he will see you are not being pushy. men don't like being suffocated.

good luck!

*Mommy2Remington* · #3 April 19th, 2010, 10:09 PM

Hey Girl!!!
How is everything going? Are things getting better between you and DH on the TTC front? How long have you two been TTC?
I really hope things are okay and the DH will ask you for to be there and will want to be there for you...this crap is too hard to go at it alone. Keep us posted okay? We're all here for you....

babydreamin17 · #4 April 20th, 2010, 06:33 AM

sorry... things are okay. He let me go in with him.. I think it was just his nerves!

Thanks for asking and checking on me tho!

Tammyms · #5 April 20th, 2010, 05:55 PM

Glad to hear he let you go in with him

I really think it must be more male pride than anything else... I know my DH feels it, I mean that's there manhood, it's what they all talk about since they learn what those lil spermies are and what they can do! It amazes me how much docs can do for us, yet there's no magic pill for a guy, why is that??