[missmaggimay]

Is it just me or does anyone else sometimes feel very alone on this board. When I first found out about DH low sperm count I was shocked I didn't even think it was a possibility. But then I was told it happens more often then we think but why is this boards numbers so low? And it seems like each of us has different issues with the SA results. Then most of RE's are sugguesting IVF which unless you have coverage is exensive. So today I am feeling alone and confused.

[wishfulgal]

I am very new to this board (we just got DH's SA results back 2 days ago) so I'm not sure exactly what you mean. But I have noticed this board is kind of slow, which is sad b/c MFI is such a devastating thing and I'm sure we all need all of the help and support we can get.
I am sure we will also be told that IVF is our only option. I have DH's totals in another post, but his count was 1.35 million/ml....so very,very bad. We do have a 17-month old son who we conceived completely naturally after only 6 months of trying, and as far as we know nothing with DH's health has changed since then. So we are hopeful that it *could* happen again someday, but we are also going to begin the adoption process. It does break my heart to think of never being pregnant and giving birth again (I was one of those women who LOVED being pregnant), but DH and I agree that IVF would be too much of a financial and emotional risk and we would be absolutely devastated if it failed. At least with adoption we would end up with a child no matter what.
It does seem crazy that there is soo much they can do when the woman has fertility problems, but when you are dealing with severe MFI there is really nothing they can do except IVF. It's crazy that one simple test has changed our lives and our hopes in a matter of days.

[*Mommy2Remington*]

I think alot of couples think its the 'womens issues' that is causing them to be infertile. Rarley do couples test the men to see if they are what is causing infertility issues.

I would LOVE to see more people come out on this board or test the Males for infertility. I guess its just not a 'talked about' thing

[*KittyCat*]

i agree with Keri, as the fertility issues were often seen as the womans issue, often people just assume that men are always fine. Sadly not the case. Plus, there is still a stigma attached to low counts and virility, so some people i suppose just aren't comfortable talking about it.

DH doesn't know i come on here, if he did he'd be very upset that i'd ever discussed the MFI. He definatly sees it as a private issue, not to be discussed with anyone. Even ourselves!