[wishfulgal]

How did your DH take the news that he had MFI? Do you think it is harder for a man to find out they have a fertility problem than the woman?

My DH (granted, the news is only 4 days old) is devastated He's actually cried about it a little and he is NOT a crier. I can tell his male ego is totally crushed. He keeps saying things like, "Well, I guess I DO sing tenor, " or "I guess I don't have very much hair on my chest, I should have known...." I keep trying to tell him it has nothing to do with how manly he is but he isn't convinced. It's not like he isn't manly... he loves sports, hunting, fishing, farming... I don't know what to do for him.

I think it must almost be harder for the man. I was sure there was something wrong with me ( I am still pretty sure I have endo) and while I was super depressed about it possibly impacting my fertility....it didn't make me feel less "womanly", ya know.

[*KittyCat*]

my DH was devestated, utterly devastated. It took me ages to convince him to go because he'd already been saying the issue was with him because of his medical history.

But on getting the results, he was just crushed. It's black and white, and no getting around it anymore or pretending that everything is ok, it's just there.

I've never seen him like that before, and i never want to again

Our results were 0, so we were both devastated. DH was actually more positive about it than I was, he said that whether we use donor sperm or adopt we will be parents no matter what. He said that the day we found out he had 0 sperm and has said that ever since. We both have days of it bothering us though. I wish the problem was with me, it seems like female problems can be worked around in most cases, but with MFI it can't be worked around in most cases. The most upset I have seen him about it was the day they did the egg retrieval and sperm biopsy and initially found 0 sperm. The nurse came to tell me he needed me while I was supposed to still be laying down. She was crying and when I went in to see Adam he was sobbing. I just hugged him and told him it didn't matter, he kept saying he was sorry and I kept telling him I didn't care that I knew he'd be a great dad no matter how it happened and that it would be HIS baby no matter what. That was the worst day we've ever had ttc-wise.