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Male infertility can sure put a damper on things. I know that when hubby and I were struggling with it, he felt a little guilty...for his was more of a 'diet' issue. It was hard for him to not feel guilty about having an infertility issue no matter how many times I told him that it wasn't "his fault!" I have endometriosis as well so I just told him "This is a challenge we BOTH have..and we'll get through it TOGETHER!!" ......There is no I in team right!!?
Does your hubby ever have 'down days' in which he feels sad or guilty that he has this issue? What do you do to console him? Does he keep his feelings about male infertility a secret or does he talk to you about it?
Well, we've only known about DH's MFI for 2 months now. At first, I was worried that he was on his way to being seriously depressed. His male ego took a serious hit b/c he equated a low sperm count to not being very manly. Poor guy. We were both so shocked and devastated at first, but we are slowly starting to accept it. He doesn't talk about it a whole lot, but whenever I talk about really wanting another baby, he always says something about it being "his fault" that it's not happening. I try to tell him that it doesn't matter whose fault it is, we're in this together, etc. But he is alot more positive than he was at first.
DH def feels responsible and his heart is broken just as much as mine when AF shows her ugly face every month We are working with an RE and going to do IUI so we both keep holding onto that and trying to think positive that it will happen but that we just need a little help. He has been willing to do whatever it takes to help himself, he quit smoking and has been taking Fertilaid even though he says it smells and tastes like pee! We have both noticed an improvement in terms of his volume after bd'ing so we like to think things are working