[*Manda*]

How often should you BD with MFI?

I keep hearing diff things...
I need help!

[Tammyms]

I'm going to piggy back on your question Amanda, I was also wondering when it's best to BD? We have issues with all numbers except for vitality, so I'm wondering if it's best to BD before O day, on O day? And like you said I'm also wondering how often?

[*Manda*]

Im sitting here googling right now tammy Im trying to google EVERYTHING with DH's numbers. So confusing!

[wishfulgal]

I've heard a lot of conflicting things as well. The book TCOYF says to abstain a few days before your fertile period (if your lucky enough to have a clue when that is supposed to be ) and then BD every other day through the temp rise. I've also heard that the sperm get "stale" and quality (motility, morphology) goes down if you go too long without BDing. I know some ladies on here have had success with BDing every day as well.

As far as timing, I know for a fact my son was conceived 2 full days before I O'd (I got sick after that so we didn't get anymore BDing in.)That was also the 2nd night in a row that we had BD'd but before that we'd been doing every other day. I have heard that the day BEFORE you O is actually the most important day b/c there is such a short window that the egg lives. Personally my peak CM day seems to be 2 days before O (usually when I get my positive OPK if I do them), so I always try to hit that day if I can.

We have tried pretty much every variation of timing and frequency so far and are now just trying to hit a few of my fertile days and hoping for the best

[*Mommy2Remington*]

Usually BDing every other day starting the day BEFORE ovulation is the key. However- not sure what is best.
We tried for 14 cycles straight- and did the "every other day rule" every single month. The month we got pregnant- we started to BD the day BEFORE ovulation and BD every single day for 5 days straight. According to my babys current size and due date- docs predict that I got pregnant (or that the sperm and egg met) 2 days after the LAST time we BDd...or 3 days after ovulation.
I also agree with the "sperm getting stale" thing. Our RE told us that obtaining more then 3 days in between is pointless- 2 days at the most! Sperm is made every single day- in fact is like a million or 2 sperm is made every single day (and it only takes one) so waiting a few days DOES increase your chances of having MORE sperm but it also needs to correspond with your egg. SO hubby can 100 thousand sperm- and catch the egg and result in pregnancy...OR hubby can have 10 million sperm AND catch the egg and also result in pregnancy-- Its not about the QUANTITY of the sperm-- its all about the QUALITY of the sperm AND egg. (we do have someone on here that got pregnant with twins who had a 100,000 count)
All in All-- you need sperm and an egg....you dont NEED a "ton" of sperm- you just need ONE "healthy motile" sperm and a HEALTHY EGG! It only takes one so don't fret tooooooo much about how much sperm hubby has- worry more about the sperm being "alive and active".
( I hope this doesn't sound ...rude?)

[*Manda*]

Keri, I just really enjoyed your explanation. Such a good point! Thanks!

[Tammyms]

Keri, I def agree with you about quality over quantity! My acupuncturist has been treating a man who has sperm count of over 1 billion! Yup, you read that right... and he and his wife have been ttc for over a year!

My DH also has motility problems, so if most of his sperm choose to tread water over swim, but they live a long time, I'm thinking they could still make it if we were a couple days too early? We both work shift work and his will take him out of town for a couple days at a time so sometimes it's hard to get things in when we're supposed to

[*Mommy2Remington*]

You are welcome!!!
My hubby had a 7 million count --could obviously be worse-- BUT~~~ He had just about 4% MOTILE rate...meaning only 4% of those sperm actually swam! So he had lazy swimmers. ALSO- and that particular SA test, he had about half of the sperm that came out dead AND/OR deformed like with 2 heads. So He had enough sperm to make a baby, but his sperm quality sucked!!
That was done in June of 2009- we were supposed to do another SA in April 2010 but got pregnant the month before so I don't know how much his sperm had improved in that time span.

[Tammyms]

Keri, I can't remember if it was yourself I read about on another post, I'll go check after I ask, but did DH do anything to improve his sperm? My DH quit smoking and wow can we both tell a difference in his sploosh! First, his sex drive is through the roof which I love! And, there's lot more sploosh than there used to be, both fantastic signs I would say!

We're doing IUI with me on Clomid next cycle so I have high hopes

[*Mommy2Remington*]

Yes in April of last year he quit smoking and he quit drinking in Jan of this year.....it was amazing what it did to his 'stuff'~ He started producing more and it looked 'healthier'

[*Manda*]

DH just drinks but he's cut down some, thankfully.
He still produces quite a lot his overall volume was 3 ml where average is 2(not suprising since Im always RUNNING to the bathroom when we BD)
I dont see a % on my paperwork of DH's motility so I dunno anything about that

[*Mommy2Remington*]

Originally Posted by amandapeek

DH just drinks but he's cut down some, thankfully.
He still produces quite a lot his overall volume was 3 ml where average is 2(not suprising since Im always RUNNING to the bathroom when we BD)
I dont see a % on my paperwork of DH's motility so I dunno anything about that

That is really good!!! Strange that it doesn't show motility % on there....Hmm--maybe that means no news is good news???

[*Manda*]

Maybe I just dunno what Im looking for. so I just relooked. Our motility is 74% guess Im just an ignoramous sometimes!