[jtcpb12]

i am so mad i could spit nails!!!!!!!!

[~LaurenNoel~]

hugs!

[AutumnLove]

I hope things get easier.

[jtcpb12]

Thanks ladies.... He has taken off his rings, he & his daughter got me so mad, i threw cooked hotdogs at him ,,,,YES I NEVER SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT, but i just lost it HUGS HEAD AND WISHES I NEVER DID THAT.... anyway whats done is done,,, i have 12 applatactions ( SP ) out there now & will be calling around tomorrow to make sure they got them.

So neadless to saw we are not on conversation. We talk when we have a question other then that nothing, he and i both won't say we're sorry & i won't speak to him till he puts his rings back on.

so we are at a stand still.

now that his kid has been taking things out of Trisha's hands ( WHICH THAT HAS BEEN OUR BIGGEST FIGHT ) that and other things , she's now doing it & NOW SHE"S GETTING IN TROUBLE for something HIS KID has been doing to her GRRRR!!!!

I tell you one thing, i will never get into another relationship like this again!!

thank you all for your support and listening

[MaineBean]

I'm so sorry Tami. Taking off the rings is certainly hurtful- I would be sad too. And I have to admit I laughed out loud at the notion of you flinging frankfurters! I know you feel bad for losing it like that- but hot dogs as a weapon is at least a little funny.

Hope things improve soon! Thinking of you and wishing you luck with the job apps!

[MamaRN]

I'm sorry tami, marriage is so hard and add blended families and it's even harder. My best advice is take some time alone and decide what you really want. Do you want to save your marriage? Do you want to end it? Once you decide then take the next steps, whether that means talking to glen and trying to work things out, or seeing a lawyer to file for seperatiom and custody arrangements for Trisha.

Sending big huge your way.

[jtcpb12]

i totally agree...but i'm so confussed... he finally after a week. of no talking at all. and i going to bed at 7:30, he left me a note saying he misses me, with the valentines day heart that says " marry me " and the thing he got last christmas .... then he don't understand why i don't have any child support left ..i only get 120.00 every 2 week, whants me to TELL HIM where that went. he never tells me why he get's paid on friday & broke by sat. So i kinda gave in and said i miss him to. & asked if we can snuggle last night. he said yes. i went to bed. he joked while i was making dinner, is that meat in your pocket or are you happy to see me,, i said idk, you never snuggled last night, WELL YOU went to bed, YEAH not everyone goes to bed at the same time, don't mean you can't snuggle.

i swear, eather he's getting more immature, or he's cheating, now he wants to goto our friends house tonight, idk , i'll he keeps getting phone calls from someone, & he still hasn't put on his rings...

He has also known, cor & i don't like our things touched we don't touch there stuff, we came home & syd was on cori's laptop, she lost it...

i really don't know if we can ever solve this, idk know if this is worth saving, i do know i love my husband, and trying to find a job, i know he's under stress now. so i'm trying not to feul it, but sometimes i just don't know what to do.

i wish i was a lay back tye'd dye person but i'm not. he speaks his mind, but i'm not allowed, idk,,,,idk,,,,idk

all i know is if people ( guys) seeing us talking pms pills they should know to BACK OFF!!!..then i wouldn't have threw the hot dogs

[MamaRN]

Tami, have you thought about seeing a marriage counselor with glen? Even just to have a neutral party there to help guide the conversation and help each of you get heard. About your financial situation, I am not sure how you and glen do things but it sounds like you keep things very separate (his money and yours) and his things and yours, his daughter and yours, and then Trisha together. Personally I don't think that is a sign of a healthy marriage, where most assets and possessions are somewhat joint, as are finances. Do you have some sort of budget set up that helps you both calculate and track expenses every month? Do you both have access to your bills and bank accounts? Have you sat down and discussed how bills should be paid, and what ' allowence' you give yourselves each week or month? Sounds like that is a priority too.

Keep us posted, hon.

[jtcpb12]

Originally Posted by MamaRN

Tami, have you thought about seeing a marriage counselor with glen? Even just to have a neutral party there to help guide the conversation and help each of you get heard. About your financial situation, I am not sure how you and glen do things but it sounds like you keep things very separate (his money and yours) and his things and yours, his daughter and yours, and then Trisha together. Personally I don't think that is a sign of a healthy marriage, where most assets and possessions are somewhat joint, as are finances. Do you have some sort of budget set up that helps you both calculate and track expenses every month? Do you both have access to your bills and bank accounts? Have you sat down and discussed how bills should be paid, and what ' allowence' you give yourselves each week or month? Sounds like that is a priority too.

Keep us posted, hon.

i've been told this. and i will def have more time to answer this tmo, not right now. all i know is it used to be so simple.