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Would you allow your child to have a middle name that you don't really care for if it meant that your SO allowed you to have your favorite first name that he doesn't really care for? What if it's a middle name you hate? Would it make it worth it to have your perfect first name?
I'm not a huge fan of Laylah's second mn Tonimae. It's growing on me now. It's always been an ok name for me. DH and I chose it to honor family on both sides. I don't regret it for a second. We don't have any "deal" though for next time. I wouldn't mind it though. LOL!
Laura (26), proud wife to my Air Force veteran Dave (33) and blessed mommy to Lucas (5) and Laylah (4) and always remembering our Angel (July 4, 2005)
I would if I didn't absolutely hate the name he picked. In fact I wasn't crazy over Neil's MN, David, when DH first picked it. I let him use it because Neil was important to me and I knew David was important to him. It has grown on me since then though.
I wouldn't use a name DH didn't care for no matter how much I loved it - it's his child too. But picking Ariadne Nicole was our compromise. I loved Ariadne, and he liked it enough.. he loved Nicole, and I liked it enough. Neither one of us disliked the other one's choice, though. Nicole is a nice name, just not really my thing.
Though I will add that if a name was important to DH (not just that he really liked it, but it had meaning), and I didn't like it.. I'd probably use it anyways. If he had insisted that Luke's middle name be Donald, I would have given it to him, even though I hate the name. (DH's middle name is Donald, and his father and grandfather are both Donald as well.)
Last edited by IAmMomMomIAm; July 15th, 2009 at 07:09 PM.
I'm on the fence on this one. I can't say I'd want to use a fn if my dh really didn't like it and I can't say I'd want to use a mn that I hated it. On the other hand, I could see myself using a mn that was honoring someone that I didn't really care for. For example I don't care for the name Doris at ALL, but it's dh's grandmother's first name. So if dh really wanted to use it...I probably would...as a mn.
I'd rather find a fn and mn we both like and can live with. But, if a particular first name was really important to me then I would probably let him use just about any mn within reason. If it was completely horrible, I'd consider other options for a fn so I wouldn't have to use the mn of his choice. Even if it's to honor a family member, I would try to find a variation of that name to use.
I think I would if I was in LOVE with my first name choice. I think I have a couple in mind that I'd have to fight for pretty hard with DH, so I'd pretty much consider any mn he would want if it meant being able to use the name I love.
Michele - wife to Jason and mommy to Vincent (7/12/10) and Maggie (4/16/14)
Nope, I couldn't do it. When we named Alexis, it was REALLY important to me that we BOTH loved her name 100%.. first AND middle. I wouldn't settle for something I didnt like, nor would I want DH to.. even if I liked a name he didn't.
I really wanted to use Hannah.. it's one of my all time fave names and always has been. But, DH dislikes it. I would never, ever, ever consider using that then.. it just wouldn't feel right to me.
Erika & Christiaan (7.27.2004)
.. and our daughter, Alexis..