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I am currently expecting my 3rd child in August.* We have 2 daughters, and this baby is a boy.* Here is our dilemma...My husband's middle name is Brooks and from the time of our first pregnancy, we always loved the name Brooks as a first name should we ever be blessed with a boy.* Well, 5 years ago my husband's older brother had a daughter and named her Brooke.* He said he wanted to use a "family name" and, although we were a bit taken aback that he would use my husband's middle name, we also didn't feel we could "claim" a name (or similar name in this instance) for a future son we may or may not ever have.* My husband is telling me he has no problem naming this baby Brooks.* His arguments to me are that this is our son, it is his (my husband's) middle name, the cousins will be 5 years apart, one is a girl and one is a boy, and we live in separate states.* All good points, however I still have that unsure feeling.* I mean, I know that it wouldn't be a big deal in our everyday life as most people we know wouldn't even be aware that there is a cousin Brooke out there as we only get together 2 or 3 times a year.* But, would it be too weird at those family get togethers to have a Brooke and a Brooks?* Or just wrong in general? *What would you do?* Thanks in advance for your advice.* I look forward to hearing it!
Gosh, I probably would not use it. I understand your husbands points, but it would really bug me knowing that the grandparents had a granddaughter named Brooke and a Grandson named Brooks!
Maybe use it as his middle name?? I do love the name Brooks.
I'm torn...I typically say when the cousins aren't really close and it's not the exact same name, then use it but it is almost the same name. I *think* that if I liked it enough and it meant a lot to me to use it I probably would go ahead and do so.
Wow that's a tough one. I probably would not use it for a first name, but would probaby still use it as a mn, but I'd probably be annoyed at the situation that now the name i loved was messed up. Probably the thing that would ultimately keep me from using it was that I woudn't want my inlaws to think that I was using "their name" even though they really have no basis to feel that way!
However, if you feel so strongly that no other name will do, then I'd say go for it. After all, you planned to potentially use it long ago. Plus, your hubby does make great points.
Thanks everyone for your advice. Really, up until this past weekend, I just assumed that my husband was against using it (as a first name) because of the whole cousin issue. Then he brought up all of his points. So, prior to that, I was thinking of it in the mn spot but still feeling resentful that my brother-in-law took my husband's name before we had a chance to. Shouldn't my husband have had first dibs? j/k...sort of LOL Plus maybe I was feeling SO strongly about wanting to use it for a fn, simply because I didn't think I could. Like wanting what you can't have, you know? The name we had before all this was Drew Brooks. So, maybe, after all, that would be a better compromise? However...I am TOTALLY open to any other fn suggestions you might have to go along with Brooks as the mn. Thanks again ladies! It's great having a sounding board on here with unbiased opinions!!
If you both love the name, I'd use it. I mean it is your DH's name, not his brother's. It makes more sense for you guys to use it than it does for a family member. (I realize it has already happened, so that doesn't matter now. )
Drew Brooks is cute, but I prefer Andrew Brooks, nickname Drew.
I say you should go ahead and use it. Your husband makes excellent points, and I don't know your family, but I don't think family gatherings happen too often, so why lose out on your favorite name just for a few days a year?