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January 9th, 2011, 07:39 AM
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Okay, I was talking a family friend IRL. I was telling her that if we ever have a daughter, we want to name her Annabelle Lillian. She then told me that was a really frilly and feminine name, like it was a bad thing. I personally believe that feminine names are appropriate for girls. I realize that not everyone likes the frilly, feminine names though, but we haven't even conceived yet and already people are criticizing our name choices. It just left me shaking my head.
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January 9th, 2011, 08:22 AM
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Not everyone will agree with your name choices. The name is nms, but I think it's very pretty and who cares what other people think, it's your baby.

When we told my mom the name we picked for our daughter (Adrea), she didn't like it. She actually made some pretty rude comments about it. I was mad, but I didn't let it get to me.
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January 9th, 2011, 08:26 AM
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Thanks! You were better able to express what I was trying to say. I get that not every name is everyone's style. I respect that. What I don't get is being rude about it.
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January 9th, 2011, 09:22 AM
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I think everyone experiences a bit of that from time to time. I've learned to not really discuss our name choices with anyone IRL until the baby is born. With Isabel, no one knew her name until she arrived. Of course we didn't even know what we were going to name her until 2 days before she was born, but we didn't discuss our options with anyone.
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January 9th, 2011, 09:45 AM
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Well, you just discovered why so many people choose to keep their names a secret from their IRL friends People can be really rude, but try not to let it get to you. I think you picked a very pretty name.
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January 9th, 2011, 03:03 PM
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Thats kind of strange but to each their own, you can't let peoples opinions bother you as long as you love the name!
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January 9th, 2011, 03:27 PM
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Thats why we never tell names until birth!
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January 9th, 2011, 03:39 PM
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End of the day there will be people who don't like your name choices - but I agree, they don't have to be mean/rude about it...

Everyone criticises my DD's m/n's - Jayda-Leigh & Lily-May, but I happen to love them, and don't really care what anyone else thinks!
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January 9th, 2011, 08:03 PM
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People are like that. My mom is really bad about being rude about name choices. I personally love Annabelle. I have a friend that named her daughter that and I think that it was just beautiful! I have another friend that named her baby Rosemary (I find them on the same level) and I love it too.
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January 9th, 2011, 11:39 PM
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People really didn't like Harper's name but we loved it. If you love it, then don't worry about what other people think.
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January 10th, 2011, 01:22 AM
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I agree with some of the other posters. You just learned a hard lesson why it's sometimes better to just not discuss baby names with close relatives and friends before baby is born.

I learned that lesson for two reasons...one the same reason as you've learned - people will be critical of it. Secondly, family or a friend might decide to use the name you've chosen. I had told my SIL my top choice for a boy. She had been saying for 2 years the names she was going to use for her first 2 sons, so I thought I was perfectly safe. Days after I told her my boy's name, she was pregnant. The following month she had her husband send out an email saying my chosen name was their baby's name.

So, I don't share names with that side of the family anymore.

BTW, I love Annabelle Lillian. If the first 4 letters weren't the ending of my name, I would have considered Annabelle for DD1 instead of Isabella.
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January 10th, 2011, 03:14 AM
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I've had people laugh and ask something like, "Wow, thats funny! Where'd you get that name from? "

Ehh, whatever. I just don't care. I don't think people are trying to be rude, they just don't think about how personal names are to each person. And, anyway, if you don't like my kiddos name, you must just have horrid tastes.
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January 10th, 2011, 03:56 AM
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People really didn't like Harper's name but we loved it. If you love it, then don't worry about what other people think.
I love Harper Elizabeth!! Beautiful name.

This is why I don't plan on discussing baby names w/ close friends & relatives. I doubt they will say anything negative once the name is actually given! Well, I'd hope not...
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January 10th, 2011, 09:41 AM
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I love what Mei Mei had to say!

My first name choices were Roghan and Annaresa (a hybrid of Annabelle and Teresa).

My very best friend immediately announced that Annaresa made her think of Gonorrhea and pretty much ruined it for me. She next tackled my boy's name saying that I shouldn't name my son after a men's hair dye...

Her chosen baby names as of now are nms, but I never knocked them down.

It kind of hurt my feelings when we were ttc, but it just seems more personal now that it's a real possibility that there could be a Roghan in there. (Could be those pregnancy hormones!!)

I don't really mind if people tell me they don't like my names, there's a good chance I don't like the ones you have chosen either. I obviously have a different idea than you about name styles, but that does not mean you have to tear them down... We aren't 10 anymore and bullying isn't in style.
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January 10th, 2011, 10:30 AM
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I know how you feel. I just got told, no more than an hour ago, that if I name my daughter Charlotte Aurora that she will be a "stupid kid"...this coming from my dad. He is adamant on me naming her Sophia. I don't get it. If you don't like the name, have some freakin tact and be nice....I feel for you hun, I know how awful it is...especially when its someone close to you.
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January 10th, 2011, 11:34 AM
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My daughter's name is Phoebe....my entire family disliked it until she was born. Now they say it fits her perfectly.
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January 10th, 2011, 08:44 PM
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I remember when I was pregnant with Carly my grandpa informed me that Carl was a boy name and if I named her Carly she would grown up to be a "he-she"
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January 11th, 2011, 07:33 AM
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I know how you feel. I just got told, no more than an hour ago, that if I name my daughter Charlotte Aurora that she will be a "stupid kid"...this coming from my dad. He is adamant on me naming her Sophia. I don't get it. If you don't like the name, have some freakin tact and be nice....I feel for you hun, I know how awful it is...especially when its someone close to you.
How rude! It's a beautiful name.
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January 11th, 2011, 04:39 PM
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aww that's horrible when ppl close to you act like that.

My mom "vetoed" alot of names I liked like I wasn't allowed to name my kid something she didn't like.

with my boys we decided to keep names to ourselves until they arrived. It's harder to diss a name when it belongs to such a sweet little angel. ykwim.
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