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I had a very special Grandma Rose who I want to honor by using Rose as my (future) daughters' middle names. I am five weeks pregnant with our first, but we want five children all together and (hypothetically) have thier names chosen. Ideally, I would like two boys and three girls so let's just go with that for my examples:
Celestia Rose (but we'd call her Celeste. I just like the idea ofthe girls also sharing similar first names in the fact that they are all four syllables and end in "ia")
My thoughts are that the boys will be sharing the same last name, and if the girls marry, they won't all share the same last name anymore so it's like a bond that I imagine will make them feel closer.
I have a good friend who's parents gave all the girls the same middle name (Ann) and she always despised it. The brothers got individual middle names, but the girls did not. I think that exacerbates it. The boys get something special, the girls all share... not cool.
Most of the sisters ended up taking their last name as their new middle name after marriage, and Ann got jettisoned. My friend doesn't feel a special attachment to the name. Her sisters all considered it basically a place holder, something just filling the slot until they married and got rid of it.
If you were going to do it, I'd at least have the boys share, too. Give any/all boys your maiden name or another family name as a middle name?
It's a little weird to me when people give their sons individual names, but then want their girls to be all matchy. It sometimes seems like boys are boys, but girls are dolls.
I am not a big fan of the idea, but that is because me and my siblings have different last names and I have never heard of sharing the same middle name. I think your idea is great though, and if you want to do that, go with it and do it! Plus you can't ever go wrong with the middle name Rose
I think it is fine. My uncle's three boys share the same middle name, and I have contemplated doing the same for my boys if #2 is a boy. I would only do it if it was to honor someone really special though... that is the only time it really makes sense to me.
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We thought of doing this and didn't and now I kind of wish we had.
My mn is Marie so when at long last we FINALLY had a daughter after six boys, we named her Alexandria Marie. My hubby suggested we give any future daughters my mn as well because he thought that it would be something really cool to share between us girls. And Marie is a pretty easy mn in that it fits well with most first names so it isn't like using it would narrow down our fn selections.
Anyway, I didn't want to do that b/c I felt like it took away from my "name opportunities" out there. I didn't ever imagine I'd have four daughters and I had so many girl names I loved, I wanted to make sure I'd be able to use them all and already having a set mn sort of messed that up.
But, now I wish I had...I've even contemplated going and adding Marie in as a second mn to all of them...but I can't b/c the most recent baby girl is named Maria Hailey and we call her Mia. So I can't very well make her name Maria Hailey Marie...LOL! But sometimes I do wish I had listened to DH.
And my mn is Marie b/c my grandmother was Mary (Maria in Italian). So its a nice tribute to her as well. At least two of the girls do have it somewhere in thier name..
A friend of mine did that with her boys, not sure the reasoning but I wish I had thought of that. All my kids have 2 middle names and I would've loved for the boys to have one the same and the girls to have one the same!
BTW I have 2 boys and then 3 girls
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