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December 3rd, 2011, 04:33 PM
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Just curious if others have done this or how they feel about it.. DH and I both really seem to love Jordan these days, DH loves James as a middle name.. and I do like James for a m/n to Jordan but I also like Jeffrey.. but DH is set on James if baby's name is Jordan even though DH's name is Jeffrey. lol I feel like I like them equally, but lean towards Jeffrey only because its actually got "meaning" to us as its DH's name.

So have any of you agreed to a name your DH/SO preferred that you were just "ok" with? What's your take on it?
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December 3rd, 2011, 05:01 PM
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Does he have a reason for being set on Jordan James? Is he open to Jeffrey if it was a different first name?

Personally, I didnt settle. We did have a difficult time coming up with what we chose, we didnt agree on much. I put together the options and we both came to the same conclusions.
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December 3rd, 2011, 05:05 PM
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Does he have a reason for being set on Jordan James? Is he open to Jeffrey if it was a different first name?

Personally, I didnt settle. We did have a difficult time coming up with what we chose, we didnt agree on much. I put together the options and we both came to the same conclusions.
He thinks it flows better I guess. He liked Jeffrey as a mn for other first names we like.. but Jordan has taken over first place and James is apparently a package deal to him. lol
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December 3rd, 2011, 06:16 PM
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I sort of settled for middle names for my kids. I like them just fine, but they weren't my top choice. I went with them because DH liked them and I got my first pick for first names.
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December 3rd, 2011, 08:59 PM
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I *do* think Jordan James has a more appealing sound than Jordan Jeffrey, but honestly... you don't use middle names that often so he should just give in You ARE the one carrying!!

As for settling, I totally did. I didn't like my son's first and middle name, but my husband was dead set. He threw the "it's my first born son" card at me until I seceded So now I'm stuck with Gideon Ray. While I don't hate or even dislike his first name now, I still detest his middle name (which honors DH's late grandfather). So now this baby I get to name all by myself with no input from him
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December 3rd, 2011, 10:28 PM
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lol.. I'm pretty sure DH would just be like "ok fine" if I put my foot down like NO! his middle name is gonna be Jeffrey! but seeing that he and I honestly do seem to like a lot of the same names I just feel like we should be able to find one we both *love*
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December 3rd, 2011, 11:08 PM
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This baby's name was what dh loved and I just liked, I continued looking (I like very uncommon names) and found one that dh agreed to and loved and I loved I just hated the feeling that I was settling on a name I want to love the name not just think it was ok (if that makes sense)
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December 5th, 2011, 01:37 AM
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I like Jordan James better.


I completely settled. We were in limbo until the 11th hour sitting at the hospital waiting to go home writing her name on the birth certificate... I was convinced she looked like an Audrey, he wanted Tessa. I settled. We fought so much over her name that if we get pregnany again, get a new pet or he gets a zit so huge it needs a name. I AM NAMING IT no input from him no argument, I am not even discussing it with him.

His argument with Audrey was it started with "odd" I was so angry because it was on our possible list. If he didn't like it. he should have nixed it before I named her Audrey.
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December 5th, 2011, 11:42 AM
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I like Jordan James a lot more than Jordan Jeffrey.

I would never settle if I really didn't like a name, but Sophia and Thomas are on our list because of DH's Great-Grandma and Grandda and also because I've used every name I really liked and put it on the list
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December 5th, 2011, 07:33 PM
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I wouldn't say that DH settled, but I definetely talk him into liking names for many many years. He basically has no choice in the matter...but don't tell him that!
For example he wasn't in love with DS' name. I had to talk him into it. TBH I think he could tell I was dead set and he realized he needed to come around. Now he loves it. Same goes for the next name I have picked out for a boy.
I personally could never settle. I know what I like and I know what I don't. Sometimes names can grow on you, but I know that for myself if I completely "settled" I'd always regret not sticking to my guns.
Good luck with picking the perfect m/n. I think they both flow well.
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December 7th, 2011, 07:01 AM
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We kind of compromise. He loved Caspar which at the time I liked but didn't love. I settled and now I totally love it. I loved Tobias and he thought it was ok, so he settled. Seth and Iris we both liked equally. Middle names all were equal decisions on family names too.

I couldn't name my child something I hated but I can certainly compromise on something thats ok
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December 7th, 2011, 12:27 PM
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We kind of compromise. He loved Caspar which at the time I liked but didn't love. I settled and now I totally love it. I loved Tobias and he thought it was ok, so he settled. Seth and Iris we both liked equally. Middle names all were equal decisions on family names too.

I couldn't name my child something I hated but I can certainly compromise on something thats ok
I agree. Noah wasn't even on my list but DH nixt every name that was. But now I look at him & picture calling him Jayce or Chase and nope - He's Noah and I'm so glad that that dh nixt those names (they're still great names but they don't fit my son).
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December 7th, 2011, 01:58 PM
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I refuse to settle and I expect DF to also refuse to settle.
We're only having a certain number of children so I think we should both love all their names, not just kind of like or tolerate any of them.

It just takes a lot of sitting down and compromising.
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December 10th, 2011, 08:34 PM
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.... I settled with Gaby and wish I hadn't.

I had been set on Aliya Isobel-May, but her father didn't like it - he vetoed every name I suggested, but then didn't bring anything to the table.. One night I found a list of names online and read them to him, he said he liked Angelina & then the next was Gaby.. and he said he really liked Gaby.. I was so frustrated by then that I said "Fine - her name is Gaby".......

to this day I regret it. I still don't know that she REALLY suits Gaby - but at the same time I can't imagine her having another name. I did change it a bit so her official name is Gabrielle - incase Gaby wasn't 'mature' enough when she got older (if she felt that way), so she'd have the option of going with Gabrielle too.

Emersyn I didn't settle, not really. The only way I 'settled' was because I'd been set on Emersyn Grace, but I'm very OCD about names & because Gaby has two middle names I HAD to give Emersyn two middle names - and Grace didn't fit with any of them
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December 11th, 2011, 10:45 AM
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I'd say James has meaning for your DH because he likes it so much. Perhaps to him it's not that important to pass his name on and he prefers to throw in a name he loves.

I've never had to settle yet as I was on my own when naming my DD. I dread a bit having to compromise with DH, actually!
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