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  #1  
January 7th, 2012, 12:07 PM
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I really, really want to name my baby after my husband (if it's a boy, of course). My issue is his son from his first marriage is named after him. I want to name him the exact same name, as in Jr or II. My step-son only has his first name as his middle name. Hubby's name is James Lewis and his first son is Dakota James. He goes by Dakota so I wouldn't exactly have two boys with the same name. Opinions?

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January 7th, 2012, 12:21 PM
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I think it's fine, since his son really isn't fully named after him.
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January 7th, 2012, 12:58 PM
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That's what I think, too Wonder-Woman, but hubby is kinda on the fence. I'm hoping for more yeses to show him lol
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January 7th, 2012, 03:15 PM
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I think you can use it in this case, especially since his first name is something different.
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January 7th, 2012, 03:39 PM
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I think it is fine.
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January 7th, 2012, 04:58 PM
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Oh, I think that's acceptable, since the first name is different. It would be different if they both were James, but different first names is fine. A friend of mine has 4 sisters (so 5 girls). 4 girls (the sisters) all have Mary as their middle name and she (my friend) has Mary as her first name. It's not really unheard of, especially when honoring family members.
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January 7th, 2012, 05:45 PM
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I think it's totally fine.
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January 7th, 2012, 09:31 PM
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Perfectly fine.
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January 8th, 2012, 08:05 AM
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I think its fine also
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January 8th, 2012, 09:46 AM
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Thank you ladies...think I'll show Jimmy now
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January 8th, 2012, 12:37 PM
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Have you considered asking the step-son what he thinks? He might think it was cool ... like you're also naming baby after HIM... or he might have an issue with it. I think it being hit or miss greatly depends on how your relationship is with him and his mother, and same goes for your husband's relationships with the two. If t hings are rocky he might feel like he were being replaced or not 'special enough' to be given his father's full name since typically the first born son is the "Jr"... or it might not be a big deal at all b/c he goes by Dakota, and he could think it was cool to share a middle name with your brother. I think it all depends on your relationships.
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January 8th, 2012, 04:46 PM
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Have you considered asking the step-son what he thinks? He might think it was cool ... like you're also naming baby after HIM... or he might have an issue with it. I think it being hit or miss greatly depends on how your relationship is with him and his mother, and same goes for your husband's relationships with the two. If t hings are rocky he might feel like he were being replaced or not 'special enough' to be given his father's full name since typically the first born son is the "Jr"... or it might not be a big deal at all b/c he goes by Dakota, and he could think it was cool to share a middle name with your brother. I think it all depends on your relationships.
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January 8th, 2012, 07:50 PM
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I think in most cases, it will probably be fine as long as you talk first. In my opinion, the concept of doing first and asking forgiveness later is no way to operate. Ask first and get input and most people are usually fine to discuss and agree with your choice. Especially if Dakota gets input on this.
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January 8th, 2012, 09:31 PM
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I think Dad can't be convinced He says we just can't have 2. On the bright side...we got a looong time to think of something else
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January 9th, 2012, 07:40 AM
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^^ Aww that's a shame. I think it would work since they wouldn't have the same first name.
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January 9th, 2012, 11:41 AM
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It's a nice idea and I don't think it's a problem at all!
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January 9th, 2012, 12:58 PM
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I think it would be fine too. Although I'm not a fan of jrs in general.
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January 10th, 2012, 04:58 AM
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I think it's fine.
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January 10th, 2012, 06:04 PM
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I think it's fine, but I'm not a fan of Jrs or IIs either.
Sorry he didn't agree with you!! Hope you can find something you both LOVE!
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January 10th, 2012, 08:11 PM
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I wouldn't do it. To me it seems copy cat of the ex and there is already one child named after him. I wouldn't want to stir up anything bad with the ex (depending on your relationship with her) or with any of his family or friends thinking that you are tring to replace her and your step-son.
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