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Okay so I wasn't planning on having kids for awhile right? Well my cousin got pregnant before me, and she's due in March. She fell in love with my favorite name for my future daughter. So she asked me if she could use it. Honestly, I wanted to scream no but I was nice because I thought by the time I have kids i'll like different names. Well now i'm pregnant, and if I have a girl I wanna use my fave name!
Is it completely wrong to just take it back and let her not use it lol? She said she wouldn't be mad if I did....but it feels wrong. But I can't think of any name i'd rather use, and my BF likes the name too. What do you girls think?
I don't know,, thats a tough one,, especially since we all know who you are talking about!
If she really truly says she wouldn't be mad, then go for it. I would definately talk to her a lot first and make sure she is ok with it,, because she has kind of claimed the name now.
I would talk to her about it, see what she says, then go from there..... Chances are you might have a boy so it might not matter anyway On the other hand, if you do have a girl.... and you can't find another name that you *love* then that would be a bummer also. It also wouldn't be fair for you to ask her not to use it, and then you end up not using it anyway. I would just talk to her about it.
If you can sit down and talk about it calmly, see if she'll agree to it.
But really, she's under no obligation to. People don't usually "steal" names to be petty. They just happen to have the same taste as you and think it's a great name. And you did already give her your blessing to use it. So if she won't agree, you'll have to be grown-up about it and choose another. There is no point in having years' worth of hard feelings over a name ... there are thousands.
Just make sure she really agrees and isn't just "being nice" like you were when you originally told her she could use it. That will just cause resentment. If you're not positive she's okay with you using it, don't.
I didn't even have to talk to her about it. She decided she wanted to use a different name anyway. So now she changed her daughter's name and if I have a girl chances are i'll use at least the first name. Now i just need to find out what i'm having!