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I had wanted to name a child Julia Elisabeth since I was 12, and my sister was very aware of this. However, she had twins in June and named the girl Julia Nicole. I wasn't really that upset about it at the time, because I was having a boy (we were pregnant at the same time) and I figured that I would have plenty of time to find a new name that DH and I could agree on.
But now that DH and I are getting ready to try for #2, we face a bit of a problem. Julia Elisabeth, Juliana Elisabeth and Juliet Elisabeth are the only names that we both love.
So here are my options..
1.Name a girl if we have one Julia Elisabeth... After all, they have different middle names and last names, and the cousins would see each other maybe twice a year since my sister just moved across the country. My sister knew that this was a possibility when she choose to name her daughter Julia, and is fine with it. (After all, she admits to "stealing" my name )
2.Use Juliana Elisabeth or Juliet Elisabeth, so that the girls' names are at least slightly different. That way when they are together they can be Juliet and Julia instead of using middle or last names to distinguish them.
3.Pick a completely different name, even though it will mean that either DH or I will have to choose a name that we like instead of love.
Right now we are leaning towards #3, but I wanted to see what others think!
Edited to add: Not that it really matters, because knowing my luck I will have 5 boys!
I don't see any reason to pick a totally different name since you've loved this one forever and the girls will see each other little if at all.
However they would be related and they would see each other sometimes. It's weird to me to have cousins with the exact same name (especially if neither will have a nickname). It would be a little confusing to grandparents and other aunts/uncles IMO. I would also be afraid that since the older one is already "Julia" to the family, yours would get stuck with being called Elisabeth or a silly nickname by the other family members.
Since you say you also love Juliana and Juliet, I would go with one of them.
That way you can use a name you love, and your family won't be tempted to give her a nickname. YOU could still call her Juli or Julia if you wanted to, and if your relatives REALLY wanted to call her something different they could call her Ana (if you use Juliana).
I would be beside myself if my sister stole a name I'd wanted my whole life![/b]
I try to take it as a complement, since she is my little sister and has always wanted/liked everything I have wanted or liked. She actually let me name her first daughter. I picked Michaela Catherine and she named my first niece Makayla Katherine, and tells Makayla that she is named after Auntie Kate
Well my name is Stevie-Jo and I have a cousin called Steven and it honestly doesn't bother us...its kinda funny calling him stevie and I get called Steph or Jo by the rest of my family when we're together to make it clear. but It has never bothered me...I'd go with Juliana or Juliet
I would keep Juliet and Juliana in my mind, but always be on the lookout for other names that you and your DH might fall in love with. You never know, when you get pregnant you might find a different name that for whatever reason just feels right for this baby.
That said, I personally love Juliet. I like it better than both Juliana and Julia. I love the way it sounds with Elizabeth too, because it ends with a consonant and Elizabeth begins with a vowel. It also sounds really nice with your son's name - Oliver and Juliet - so cute!!!
Maybe slightly different would be best. My name is Shannon. I have a cousin my age named Shaunda. We were very, very close growing up and always enjoyed the fact that our names were sort of similar (both with an 'sha'...)
I would use Juliet or Juliana. I don't think you should have to completely give up a name you have loved your whole life just because your sister happened to have a girl first. I have a Julianna and we call her Jules (I love that nn). I would see no issue at all for your mom if you are going to nn her Jules and the cousin is Julia they don't sound too much alike. I would keep looking for other names that you love between now and then but if you don't find one I would not settle for a name I only like. GL!
By the way my first dd was going to be Avery if she was a boy of course she wasn't and my older sister used that as a middle name for her son so for my second pregnancy I thought of a new boy name Hunter Nicholas. She was a girl too and my other sister used Nicholas as her sons first name. I never thought twice about it really since I don't think I would ever have a boy. If I did want to use either Avery or Nicholas I don't think either sister would have an issue.
Kim- wife to Kevin mom to Ashley, Julianna, Marinah, and Delaney