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We've still got quite a ways to go before we really need to decide on baby names, but my husband and I have been kicking around a few, and actually found that we easily agreed on some surprisingly fast. Both first & middle names are from family names, but the problem comes with the fact that if we have a boy - both names are from husband's side of the family, and from my side of the family if it's a girl:
(our last name starts with an "L")
Boy: Bennett McGuire
Girl: Jessica Avery
Do y'all think that may cause some conflict or unnecessary disappointment one one side of the family depending on what we have? I know that they really should be happy no matter what, but you know how unpredictable family is....... Also, what do you guys think of the names in general? Thanks!
Tell both sides of the family that you put your names in a bucket and drew them. So that way they don't feel like you picked someones over another persons.
We are using family names too and thats what Im going to tell mine.
Even if thats not what we do.
we picked middle names from our deceased grandparents. if i was carring a boy he would have been ty Edward --edward dh grandfather. but the baby turned out to be a girl so we used my grandma's name for ashlyn's middle... it didnt cause any conflicts. so when i have a nother baby...long time from now.... and its a boy ty edward is already picked and final. for a girl we arent gonna do family names. we picked lexie marie.
Very nice names! Just tell everyone that it will be after this family if its a girl and if its a boy it will be after this family, that way they know that you thought of each of them.
Both my boys have family middle names, Jaxons is from dh's and Xavier is from mine. There was no hurt feelings everyone was just so excited about a healthy baby.
There may be some hurt feelings - but they will get over it. What matters most is that you and DH are happy. Another thing is a compromise, Avery I think can be used for a boy or a girl.....just a thought
Thanks for the replies, ladies We had actually thought of using Bennett Avery for a boy (which is a combo. of both of our maternal grandmother's maiden names), so I guess that could still be an option, but were afraid that made it sound a little too effeminant (sp?). Suppose it really won't matter much b/c we won't be calling him by both names anyway, so I should just stop stressing over this as i'm sure that there's more important things that I could worry about
My DH and I aren't even TTC yet, and we have already got ours picked out. Most are from family names (and actually more from DH's side). I know I won't have that problem with my family. I think it is a great way to carry on names of our families.
You could always wait to share the name you chose until the baby is born, and then most likely your family won't say anything. They will love your cute little one so much and want to dote on it, that the name will be very low on their list of priorities. Just a thought, in case you are worried they won't like it!
PM to see if I am available to make a siggy - decisions will be made on a case by case basis.
I think it's good that you've got possibilities from both sides. Let them know that, like someone already said, they will know they were thought of, and it should be fine.
We've had different names picked out each time, and the one that wasn't used has not been carried forward to the next. (Only a middle name once) I think some family wished we'd used some of the names we thought of, but I changed my mind.
You've got to be happy with this name, and your baby has to live with it for life. Don't try to please everyone. It's impossible.