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There's a website called Bigbadbabynames.net (or something along those lines...) and I know a few of the women here post there..
From what I've seen, the women who post on that site hate trendy names and spellings.
For those of you that post there (or feel that way), I just wondered what names would be considered legit? And not tryndee? I saw that a lot of people posting there use Behindthename.com.... a lot of names that are considered trendy are on that website, but listed under usage as English "modern". Is that what determines if a name is legit ? If the usage is something other than modern?
History is the most important part to me. But there are other things too. I think I'd say ...
1. history (including etymology)
2. proper spelling (variants are fine as long as there's a history of use and/or the change is culturally justified, like Katherine/Catherine)
3. tradition (this is the case with, for example, "word" names ... Ruby and Felicity are traditionally used as proper names, while Tree and Gold are not ... this is less clear-cut because the words aren't that different, so while on the edge of "legit" some of these are just "trendy", like Justice or Crystal)
If you're using Behind the Name as a reference, yes, in their classifications names that do not meet those three criteria are usually called "English (Modern)". But the justification is a lot more than "Oh, this is a modern usage". Even if someone named their child Abcde in 1203, I wouldn't consider that "legitimate", even though the usage was historical.
- it has a history of being used
- it is spelled correctly
- it's used on the correct gender
- it isn't a word that is not traditionally a name
I also think a name should mean something, though there are exceptions, because somethimes the meaning is unknown. I just don't like names that were made up and have no etymology or history of use. I don't like misspelled names, whether it was accidental (like spelling Aidan a-i-d-e-n), or deliberate (spelling something wrong to try to be unique). It's the same to me as misspelling a word- no one wants to have spelling mistakes in their writing, so why would anyone misspell something as important as someone's name?
I agree with Acadia and A.L.C., a name has to have history and meaning and not be misspelled. I think names that are "modern" or made-up look really tacky and are unnecessary since there are so many beautiful, legit names out there. A name is a very important thing that someone has to live with for their whole life so I think it is important that they be given a proper, legitimate name. It's also important when naming a baby to realize that the child will be an adult for most of their life, so the name "Lulu Destiny" or whatever is not going to be so cute when she's 30 and trying to be seen as a professional.
Shauna; college student and future teacher
Fav. names (that seem to change every day): Oliver, Beckett, Stellan, Violet, Audrey, Isobel.
I think it's all perfectly silly Unless you are naming your kid Dystyniee or something like that, who cares. My name doesn't "mean" anything and I've never thought twice about it. My parents like it, its what they chose to name me, than in itself is enough "meaning" for me. That is special. I would rather be named something that my parents liked than some old family name that they felt stuck with. If they happen to like a family name, awesome! I do like the idea of finding a name that has meaning to you, but what if you don't really have anything? My whole family is full of Steves, Debbies, Glennas, Roberts, Ernestines, Cecils, Beverlys.....I just don't have much to choose from. So, I will choose something that I LIKE. I don't know, I just think that everyone gets way too judgemental about names. A name is about how it fits you and how you carry yourself. I am more concered about a names popularity. Every generation has new names, that is what happens where you live in a world of 6 billion people. At some point, every name was "made up". As time goes on and the poulation grows, new names will pop up, thats the way it works. I don't care how historical or meaningfull Mauve is, I just can't stand that name. I would never name my child Grace, Ava, Sophia....because although they may be beautiful and meaningful to most people, they don't hold that meaning to me personally and I would rather not have my child be Sophia #3 in her class. I picture the type of people that my children will be and I choose names that I think will fit them. And, if they are like me, they won't give a rats butt about WHY I chose their name, hopefully they will just like it and appreciate it because mommy and daddy chose that name for them. I promise that their name won't be hard to spell or completely off the wall, but I can't promise that it will be historical either. I'm not a classic kind of girl, so why would I name my child that way?
No one ever said a name had to be a family name to have meaning. Most names mean something (like Calista means beautiful, Katherine means pure, etc.). That makes a name meaningful even if has never been used in your family before.
There are thousands of legitimate names and they aren't all very popular. I wouldn't use a name like Ava, Sophia, or Grace either, knowing that they're so popular right now. But there are many other names that aren't used as much.
I don't have a problem with uncommon or modern-sounding names. But a lot of made-up names are used just because the parents think they're cute, and while names like that might be nice on children, they'll seem silly on adults who want to be taken seriously.