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I wasn't sure where to post this, but it's a problem with me, so I figured I would post here. I'm wondering if there is anything I can take to help me have a better libido!
DH and I messed around before we were married, no real intercourse though, and I wanted it all the time! Then we got married and I NEVER want it!! It's like a chore now and I feel used by DH. I don't get turned on by ANYTHING. Not even the hottest guy in the world. It really sucks!! I know sex makes DH happy, but I literally have to force myself to do. He feels like I don't love him because I don't want to do it. Now that we are trying for a 3rd I of course have to do it certain times. So now he says "You just want me so you can get pg." Which is true. I don't want to live the rest of my life feeling like this!! Help! Please tell me there is something I can do to help me want to have sex!!
I don't have any answers because honestly i've been feeling this way lately too. I used to want sex all the time but I think the frustration that came with tccing, and failing, made my libido go away. I don't want it like I used to.
Talk to an endocrinologist (or even your PCP). Ask for a complete metabolic workup and complete hormone workup (which includes a complete thyroid workup ... not just TSH ... you need to specifically ask for your FREE T3 AND FREE T4, and you need to ask for a 24 hour cortisol test). I can almost guarantee your doctor will look at you like a moron and tell you it's either the flu or depression. Keep looking, and don't take a Rx for depression (unless you honestly thing that's the answer). They'll lower your sex drive even more. There are great doctors out there who will help you get to the bottom of it. I had no sex drive until my underactive thyroid (and over active adrenals) were diagnosed. Now I'm on hormone supplements. It could be low testosterone, low progesterone, or anything. Also take a look at your diet. If you're primarily eating healthy fats (nuts, fish, etc., not a bunch of junk food or red meats), avoiding too much soy (which hinders your hormones), and eating plenty of veggies, it'll also help your sex drive.
When my sex drive went down the toilet, the best thing for me to get my engine going again, was exercise. I started doing moderate workout everyday for about 20 minutes. It's amazing how much more energetic you feel afterwards.