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I'm new to JM and just noticed this board. I am visually disabled and I'm not able to drive. I find that people take driving for granted and don't realize how hard life would be for them if they were not able to do so. I hate having to depend on others for everywhere I need to go. Now that I have a baby I hate that she will not be able to rely on me as she gets older to take her to school, appointments, activities, etc. It is very heartbreaking for me. Anyway, I don't want to get into it too much because talking about it upsets me. But I was wondering if there are any other mamas that can't drive. How do you deal with it from day to day?
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Hi. I am Patty, the host of the board and want to welcome you to the board. I do not face your challenge of not being able to drive, but I know it must be difficult as living with a disability each and every day is challenging. We are here to support one another in any way we can. Let me know if you need anything ok.
My husband has albinism and is legally blind, so I sort of understand what you go through every day.
It's hard for him, having to rely on me or his parents, even his grandmother to get things done when I'm not around. Today's world is not very accessible to non-drivers. I myself have a paranoia when it comes to driving. The only reason I learned was because when I met my husband I wanted to do it for him. It's uncomfortable and upsetting to me. That probably seems crazy to you, lol.
I can relate. Due to my attention deficit I can't get behind a wheel. We live in a small city (Halifax, Nova Scotia) and I walk or take the bus as much as possible. I also spend a small fortune on taxis - that's going to have to stop once we have the baby!
I share your worries, but at the same time, my mother never drove when we were kids. It was always "dad's job." I learned public transportation early (at 12 I was riding the city bus with my siblings) and used it often. I never felt like I was disadvantaged because of this.
I share your problem with driving. I have seizures that are hard to control, and have made the choice not to endanger others unless it is a true emergency. It is hard, and I have wondered if people know what a blessing it is to be able to get around freely. I have wondered what it's like to have a normal brain. Would I feel differently? I have four kids, and my husband is gone most of time. It takes a balancing act to make it work. A church friend takes my kids to school, but there are times that she is out of out. I only have two days available to get any errands/appts. done each week. I believe that we parents who struggle with disability, and yet make it work, will persevere.
I can't drive because I am deathly afraid of driving (was in a lot of car accidents as a child) and with the meds I take I can sometimes pass out without realizing. Also I can't pay attention long enough in a car to drive one either because of my ADHD or my depression (I will randomly start crying).
I learned to take buses as a child. (age 10) I am a pro at taking the bus and thankfully I have a bus stop across the street from my place so its super close. And my sister and brother-in-law help drive me places and take me grocery shopping as well.