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  #1  
November 1st, 2006, 12:51 AM
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Here is my story. i have been a heavy smoker for 10 years (i am 24) I am 33 weeks pregnant.
I have given up during my pregnancy, but with stress levels and losing my job unexpectantly i started again..... if anything, i just cant deal with the guilt anymore. I know if i have done damage, its already done. And i will never forgive myself for it But the depression is just so intense, that i pick up a smoke to calm down.... I know i am a bad mum, but i hope and i prey that my son will be happy and healthy..... I know many people will judge me, but not like i judge myself. But i just dont want to pick up another one again. Do you guys think he will be ok? I have always eaten well, taken my pregnancy vitamins every day......

Wish me luck ladies
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November 1st, 2006, 05:51 AM
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Hun, I willl not say smoking is a good thing. I quit on and off throughout my whole pregnancy. Its good you have done it. My doctor told me it didnt matter when i did, Later is better then never!

Your not a bad mom, there have been people who have done WAY worse while pregnant. Im sure your son will be fine, and we are all here for support to help each other STAY quit!!!

Good Job with fighting it. its hard specially when you are pregnant, because the cravings are 1000 times worse.

Keep up with it. we can Stay quit together
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November 1st, 2006, 12:18 PM
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I feel like a horrible mumma. THis isnt the way it was meant to be.
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November 1st, 2006, 06:09 PM
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I cant even go a full 48 hours. I am such a failure.......
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November 2nd, 2006, 07:37 AM
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You can do it! I have smoked on and off since I was 16 and I am 29. Never a heavy smoker, but also never could say no and when times get tough it is the first thing I turn to. I quit the day my pregnancy test showed positive. I stuck to it b/c I wasn't doing it for myself, I was doing it for my son. Think of your baby suffocating when you smoke and maybe that will help. Also when you want a smoke, immediate do a thought replacement process. Which means you replace the smoking thought with something else. Maybe how you are decorating the room, or what you need for the baby. I wish you the best and just don't get down if you slip....get right back on the boat and you will be fine!
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November 3rd, 2006, 09:54 AM
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Its is hard. but i have faith in you. you can do this. keep trying ok!!! we are all here for you!
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November 14th, 2006, 06:33 PM
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Hey there... You are NOT a bad Mum. Get ready for this one.... how's this for backwards thinking?::::

So I'm 31 and have a 19th month old FABULOUS son named Joe. I have smoked heavily (on and off) since I was about 17. I smoked all the way through my pregnancy with Joe. My Mom smoked with my two siblings and I, so I wasn't overly alarmed by being a pregnant smoker.

Now I'm pregnant again, and I quit cold turkey 22 days ago. Did I quit for the baby inside me? NOPE. I quit for my son. I DON'T want to die early because of a relatively "preventable" disease.

I want to smoke about 47,892 cigarettes right now. But.. you could put a long luscious marlboro light 100 lit in front of me and I wouldn't take a puff, because I DON'T WANT TO BE A SMOKER.

Find what drives you to NOT smoke, and tatoo it in your mind.

I am here to help. I do not judge. It is a true hard addiction, but we are all stronger than it. Please let me know if I can help you in any way.
Good luck!

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December 3rd, 2006, 01:23 PM
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I know you can do it because you've done it before! try try try!!!
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December 5th, 2006, 08:06 AM
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You're not a bad mom. You're doing your best. Keep doing that.

If you can't quit altogether, don't give up on yourself. Just smoke as little as possible. For example, only smoke 1/2 of the cig instead of the whole thing. And smoke outside so that the second-hand smoke doesn't do even more damage.

And please, don't feel guilty. You are only human.
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