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Here is my story. i have been a heavy smoker for 10 years (i am 24) I am 33 weeks pregnant.
I have given up during my pregnancy, but with stress levels and losing my job unexpectantly i started again..... if anything, i just cant deal with the guilt anymore. I know if i have done damage, its already done. And i will never forgive myself for it But the depression is just so intense, that i pick up a smoke to calm down.... I know i am a bad mum, but i hope and i prey that my son will be happy and healthy..... I know many people will judge me, but not like i judge myself. But i just dont want to pick up another one again. Do you guys think he will be ok? I have always eaten well, taken my pregnancy vitamins every day......
Wish me luck ladies
Yup we are doing it again!
Proud WAHM with 2 amazing children 4 and 6 years.
You can do it! I have smoked on and off since I was 16 and I am 29. Never a heavy smoker, but also never could say no and when times get tough it is the first thing I turn to. I quit the day my pregnancy test showed positive. I stuck to it b/c I wasn't doing it for myself, I was doing it for my son. Think of your baby suffocating when you smoke and maybe that will help. Also when you want a smoke, immediate do a thought replacement process. Which means you replace the smoking thought with something else. Maybe how you are decorating the room, or what you need for the baby. I wish you the best and just don't get down if you slip....get right back on the boat and you will be fine!
Hey there... You are NOT a bad Mum. Get ready for this one.... how's this for backwards thinking?::::
So I'm 31 and have a 19th month old FABULOUS son named Joe. I have smoked heavily (on and off) since I was about 17. I smoked all the way through my pregnancy with Joe. My Mom smoked with my two siblings and I, so I wasn't overly alarmed by being a pregnant smoker.
Now I'm pregnant again, and I quit cold turkey 22 days ago. Did I quit for the baby inside me? NOPE. I quit for my son. I DON'T want to die early because of a relatively "preventable" disease.
I want to smoke about 47,892 cigarettes right now. But.. you could put a long luscious marlboro light 100 lit in front of me and I wouldn't take a puff, because I DON'T WANT TO BE A SMOKER.
Find what drives you to NOT smoke, and tatoo it in your mind.
I am here to help. I do not judge. It is a true hard addiction, but we are all stronger than it. Please let me know if I can help you in any way.
Married to Mike 7/25/03
Son Joseph 3/29/05
Daughter Sadie 5/7/07
Baby to Be 7/4/2010
You're not a bad mom. You're doing your best. Keep doing that.
If you can't quit altogether, don't give up on yourself. Just smoke as little as possible. For example, only smoke 1/2 of the cig instead of the whole thing. And smoke outside so that the second-hand smoke doesn't do even more damage.
And please, don't feel guilty. You are only human.