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OK here is the long-awaited list of things you can try to energetically bring about the right conditions for a BFP and a healthy pregnancy, spiritually speaking. I am putting a star by the tried and tested ones (bear in mind I'm 6 months pregnant as we speak so at least some of this worked for me ).
The problem with TTC is the longer it goes on for, the more you can become overwhelmed by a sense of desperation. Unfortunately, the energy of desperation is akin to the energy of lack. What you put out, you attract back. If you're putting an energy of lack out there, you attract more lack. It's about re-programming your thought patterns (not an easy task when you desperately want a baby), staying positive and letting your intention be known to the universe in as many ways as possible.
Asking for help from Angels and Ascended Masters
For any woman TTC, Archangel Haniel is a good port of call.* Archangel Haniel is the archangel of feminine balance, sensitivity issues, hormones, and cycles, and as such she can have a hand in helping maximise your fertility. You can call in Archangel Haniel for help, visualising swirling blues around your aura to bring her energy close.
Archangel Sandalphon is also one to ask.* Apparently you can also ask Archangel Sandalphon for a specific gender baby. I did, and the verdict will be in sometime in August.
Archangel Raphael may be the ideal one for you if you are TTC with medical assistance or have medical issues which are holding back TTC. He is the archangel of healing. He also works together with Ascended Master Mother Mary to bring about healing, and Mother Mary herself is of course associated with fertility and miracles. You can petition them by calling them by name, visualising healing greens in your aura, or saying the Hail Mary 3 times over, 3 times per week. I am only not starring this because I have not personally worked with these two for THIS purpose. However I have worked with them for physical healing of other issues and it worked. Hail Mary, full of grace.
Our Lord is with you.
Blessed are you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb,
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
You can call in help from any archangel or ascended master by repeating their name 3 times (this is known as invocation), setting an image of them as your avatar, in your siggy or on your desktop, or having an oracle card depicting them pinned up or placed out somewhere you'll see it every day.
Help from the crystal kingdom
Carnelian and moonstone are your best stones here. You could try placing one on your sacral chakra for 20 minutes 3 times over 3 weeks, after praying for a baby.* You could alternatively try wearing them on a necklace or in a pouch, or carrying a stone with you at all times.
Affirmations can really help you reverse any negative thinking. If you've had disappointment after disappointment or are losing faith with the process, it can be so hard to keep your thoughts upbeat and believe you will one day hold a baby in your arms. However a lot of spiritual experts believe that when you put out thoughts like "I don't deserve this" or "this will never happen for me", it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, because thought creates reality.
The good news is, positive thoughts carry a lot more charge, weight, etc (however you want to view it) than negative ones. The best thing to do if you catch yourself mid-negative thought is to replace it with a positive one. Affirmations are short, sharp positive thoughts you can train yourself to think. You train yourself by repeating them 3 times a day in your head or aloud - in the car or while brushing your teeth or washing the pots are good times to do it. Stick a post-it up somewhere with your chosen one on. It's important that affirmations start positively, eg "I am" or "I will" or similar. I am only not starring this one because I haven't used affirmations for this particular purpose. I have used them though and they really do work.
For transformation if you believe you're having a run of bad luck generally: "I AM a being of violet fire! I AM the purity God desires!"
For rekindling a waning belief: "Nothing is impossible. Impossible is nothing."
Pregnancy-specific: "I will get pregnant when the time is right."
"I will become a mother."
"I will be a wonderful mother."
"I am a wonderful mother to....(number of children you want)."
Visualising means picturing or imagining. It's a form of daydreaming, and a light form of meditating. Pictures carry more energy than words alone for most of us, so visualising can be an important part of the process.*
Visualise the end product, not the process - allow the universe to decide how, when, where, etc you get your BFP. What you're interested in visualising is the healthy baby in your arms. A really strong way to visualise is to call in ALL the senses. So picture it. Think of the sounds your baby would be making, or things your partner may be saying. Think of the smell of a newborn baby. Think of the warmth and weight of that baby in your arms, the feeling of it holding your finger or touching its cheek for the first time, the feeling in your heart. The more regularly you can conjure up a really vivid picture in mind, the better - but even doing this as a one-off exercise will contribute.
You can also visualise yourself healthy and creating the right conditions for a healthy pregnancy. Stress is a big stumbling block. Taking ten minutes each day to sit down and visualise pink light all around your aura, soothing, calming and healing away any stress, will also make a difference.
There are all sorts of fertility rites and rituals. Rituals need not be elaborate, either - they can be pretty simple! A quick and easy one to do would be to light a candle. White, orange (for fertility), green (for healing) or pink (for love) would be ideal, but the sacred energy created by any candle will help align the universe with your cause. State your wish while sitting with the candle, or carve a word representing your wish - "fertility", "pregnancy", "health", "creativity", "baby" etc - into the candle and allow it to burn down (supervised at all times please - fire safety first!). Again I'm not starring this because I haven't used it for this purpose. But I have used candle rituals for pretty much everything else you can think of and they always work to some degree - sometimes they clear one block away at the time if there are many, so you may need to repeat or combine with another method.
You could also do a ritual together with another female friend with the same desire, or with your partner. With a female friend, share a special meal together, then light candles and put on some music you both enjoy to dance to - it's important that you sway your hips during this dance, awakening the kundalini within. Close with a repetition of the mantra: "I am bountiful. I am beautiful. I am blissful."* (I didn't do the ritual, but I did use the mantra). With a partner, hold hands and look into each other's eyes. Then close your eyes, both focusing on uniting and welcoming in a new soul to become your family. End with a cuddle (or more!).
Rituals are given more power if you give thanks to the universe directly after the ritual. This shows 100% trust that the universe will deliver what is meant for you at the exact right moment. These particular rituals are best done on a new (for new possibilities) or full (for fullness, creativity, manifestation and fruitfulness) moon.
There is also a quick and easy charm you can make. Shells are a symbol of fertility.* Hold a special shell in the palm of your hand, tell it your baby-related wish, and place it by your bed until the wish comes true. You could even expand this into a ritual by visiting the beach especially, beachcombing for your special shell, and writing your wish in the sand or speaking it to the ocean. I have used this technique for attracting my soulmate - and it worked. The ocean is charged with a mystical power I think it would be impossible to fully understand.
Prayer and Cosmic Ordering
Now I imagine that those of you TTC have already prayed. But if it's not working, it's time to change the record. Prayer works, but requests are not always granted straight away or in the way you expect them to be. Sometimes there are unseen forces or obstacles which mean a request cannot be granted at that time. Cosmic orders are the same. There's no rhyme or reason to saying the same prayer over and over again day in day out.
Try re-wording your prayers so that you ask for less to begin with and build up in smaller steps. So, for example, instead of wishing for a health baby, wish for the conditions to be right for a pregnancy. When you see a difference or a shift in your health, home situation, or relationship, go a step up then. Some people don't ask for enough. Some people may be asking for a BFP, but not for a healthy baby - they need to do the opposite and begin praying for a healthy baby to manifest in their life. Don't be too specific about the details, either - it may be that the destined path for you is adoption, surrogacy or a pregnancy with a different partner, or with the same partner but at a different time. Let the universe decide the details and don't give a timeframe - you're more likely for your prayer to manifest. Also, don't just ask for things in your prayers. The energy of gratitude is nothing short of miraculous. Make sure you pray in thanks as often, if not more often, than you pray to ask.
Cosmic orders are like prayers, but you write them down. Write down what you wish to manifest in detail, but again, hold back on the specifics of how. A real key here is whatever you write, finish up with "this or something better now manifests for the highest good of all". This ensures that if you're not asking for everything you deserve, or if there is some reason why your wish would contravene the highest good of you or someone else, the universe will take care of the rest.
If you have been TTC a long time, and feel like it's a lost cause, it could be appropriate to pray to St Jude - the patron saint of lost causes - or to say the Prayer of Application to the Holy Spirit (the specific instructions must be followed - again I have not used this for TTC but I have used it for other things and it worked): Publish a prayer Prayer to St. Jude: For Hope In Desperation
Mantras are a way of repeatedly putting out your intention into the universe. The idea is to say them as often as possible - you could put post-it prompts somewhere prominent to help you do this. I have already mentioned the mantra "I am bountiful. I am beautiful. I am blissful."*
Another, which is for strength as a woman and a mother and derives from Tibetan Buddhism, is: "Om tara tu tara ture swaha"* (ture pronounced 'tooray').
I'm glad I'm writing this because looking at the magazine article I got it from, it also says to say this mantra while pregnant as a sonic signal to the baby for soothing and comfort. I must remember this!
Obviously, depending on your religious beliefs, some of this may feel "right" for you and some may not. Please do be aware however, that prayer, affirmations, angels, crystals and ascended masters are for everybody. They are not confined to one religion or path. Also be aware that you do not need to do everything on this list - I didn't use everything, and yet something clicked and helped me along the way (and some of those I starred were from my first pregnancy rather than this one) - I conceived in 3 months of TTC despite my doctor saying it may take much longer given my age.
And do also be aware that TTC is harder for some than it is for others. It's not all to do with karma and what your life plan or destiny is. Some of us get bigger roadblocks to certain areas of our life in order to learn our life lessons (I know mine was my love life). Some of us also have simply unfortunate health problems etc that hamper our dreams through no fault of our own. Using some or all of these methods doesn't guarantee anything and there is no one magical fix or cure. However using some or all of these methods alongside doing everything you can physically (having sex regularly, seeking medical advice, having a good diet and taking exercise, avoiding stress) can:
- Help you stay positive about the process and the journey
- Add up together with your other efforts to create the right amount of energy to manifest your dream
- Create the right mental and spiritual conditions for you to have a healthy pregnancy
- Attract unexpected help from the universe and alternative doors opening, for example, adoption possibilities, or a new medical breakthrough or treatment, or fund-raising help for IVF or similar
- State your intention to the universe in a clear and uncluttered way, unclouded by desperation and lack energy - for some people this is the key they needed all along
- Bring about a miracle if it is for your highest good
Good luck ladies, and please post if you use any of these methods and they work for you.
Last edited by Carwen*Angel; April 28th, 2012 at 12:40 PM.
Thanks for the info Sharron! Just a little extra I would like to throw in. I've been talking to my sister about doing positive thinking/affirmations for about two months now. She said they are best to do on a new moon. Thought I would pass that on
with my son i was ttc for 5 years the month i got pg i brought some moonstone and wore it in a cage on a chain. also brought to friends then for presents both got pg that month. one lady unfortunately i gave mine to after i had finished with it never has got pg again she has been ttc around 10 years. i still hope one day it will happen for her.
She would have been better with a brand new moonstone Michelle. And if that didn't work, something stronger - carnelian, or tangerine quartz. I would also recommend that she work with Raphael and Mary as they are all about miracle healing xxx
I got my girl baby. Thank you Archangel Sandalphon!
Also, you can work with Archangel Gabriel on trying to conceive a child - a good fiat to say to enlist the help of Archangel Gabriel is "In the name of Gabriel and Hope, I AM a holy one of God"....and then outline the goal you wish to achieve.