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Found it to be quite interesting (and expensive for my life) but I wonder if some how we could figure out a similar ritual. I am working on this type of cutting of negative thoughts and attachments and have not been very successful yet.
I think the ritual is something great. You could create your own kit at the local Home Depot/Walmart probably for much cheaper. HOWEVER, you need a daily practice to really keep negative thoughts at bay and nonattachment in the forefront. A lot of my daily practice is around these things.
Not at all. Two 20 minute meditation sessions. I do some chakra work in meditation when I feel... Off. Chakra cord cutting during meditation is quite powerful. I have a gratitude journal. Helps focus on the positive. I use affirmations daily. And at night wile falling asleep it's either affirmations or visualization.... The last five minutes before sleep are the most important for changing your negative self-talk patterns.
Oh. And non attachment.... I am doing a lot of work around that. It too is a practice. Once I realized that control is merely a trick of the ego.... I realized that the most p
Empowering thing I could do was learn to surrender to the Divine.
I would really love to have time to meditate but I'm never alone and it's never quite in my house. I can do affirmations though, and I need to start with that and also the surrendering. I've done this in the past when we were ttc our first and it very much healed me on an emotional standpoint and we also ended up pregnant. There is just so much pain in my heart that it's been hard to let it go.
Find the time to meditate. Just a few minutes per day helps. I started out at 3 minutes twice per day. And if you are in a lot of pain.... Journaling..... Not just gratitude will be useful to you.... Get it all out. I wrote letters to those who hurt me in my past as a means of getting it OUT. Imagine my surprise when I had to write a letter to myself for believing myself to be a victim for all those years.
And also, on some level, the energy from those letters does go out into the universe and it's sort of as if you've written those words to that person except the Divine (or the angels, or whatever you believe those unseen forces in our universe to be) translates it in between. The message that you need them to back off, support you more, show love, or quit draining your energy reaches them subconsciously, but in a way they can accept because it comes from the Divine in the most perfect way.
A ritual could be a good idea if you just thinking on this doesn't work for you, but it could be at a very simple level that wouldn't cost you any more. You could write your negative thoughts on the ground outdoors in chalk and let the rain wash it away; you could write them down on a piece of paper and then burn or bury them. The elements of water, fire or earth can transmute those negative thoughts and leave space in your mind and heart for positive ones.
Terri: "The last five minutes before sleep are the most important for changing your negative self-talk patterns." I did not know that!!!! I have been doing well with the stuff we talked about, I really have, but this is a good thing to know to add to that.
Mel, I really need to meditate, but I also find it hard, and things get busy here and then I get wiped out and I just can't find the time. I've meditated a few times in the last week and I promise it does make a huge difference because it helps you connect to your centre and also "strip away" the fear of the everyday world - but I do need to make it a regular fixture. Perhaps we could be meditation buddies or something, and check in with each other every couple of days in PMs or on FB to discuss our experiences - knowing someone will be checking that I've done it would probably motivate me. And Terri's right, it can just be a few minutes, even once a day eg when kids are in bed, to begin with. Wdyt?