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April 8th, 2008, 02:26 PM
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Would you consider becoming a foster parent?

I've always thought that I would love to do this. I stay so busy now (I'm a work at home mom) with a toddler so I'm busy around the clock, but when things settle down and the kids get a little older, I would love to. I think it would be very hard to get close to a child but if you knew they were getting adopted, that would help.
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April 8th, 2008, 02:39 PM
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Honestly, I don't think I could. I know how I am, and I'd want to adopt every single one that we fostered. I know people that foster though, and I admire them so much for what they do.
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April 8th, 2008, 05:51 PM
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That's how I feel too but I tell myself that if I know they are going to be adopted - someone has spend countless dollars and time so hopefully it's to a good home. When we first talked about adopting Kirsten, we had no idea if the birth father would sign the papers so I had her for months and months without knowing for sure if we would be able to keep her - I told myself that no matter what happened, I gave her a good home while I could and the rest was out of my hands. It turned out fine....once we offered the birth father an option of no child support, he jumped on it right away! Thank goodness it all worked out for us, but there was always the fact that it might not.

Oh yes, when my lawyer called me and said he signed the papers, I literally dropped the phone to the floor and couldn't breath! DH had to take the phone and talk to them! I was sooooo happy and relieved - it was like 500 pounds was lifted off of my shoulders!!! We still had a couple of months to wait before it was official so we still had some time to worry, but my goodness....it was such a relief to have him sign those papers!
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April 8th, 2008, 08:15 PM
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I would. In a heartbeat. My DH doesn't want to though. I have always felt like the children in foster care need someone stable, loving, able to provide what they need at that time and help them move through what they have to go through. I'd love to be that person. I wouldn't like giving them to someone else, but I would know I could say I'd done what I could for them. I keep praying DH will decide he wants to be a foster dad. As soon as he wants to, we'll do it. Since we'll be approved for fostering or adopting through DHR, we'll be able to do both whenever we want.
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April 10th, 2008, 05:01 PM
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DH and I have talked about it but I am not a sahm and I really feel that it would be important for me to be one so i'm able to give all the care and attention that I could to the foster children. Plus I don't think emotionally that I could have these children in my home and then let them go. It would be so tough to do that.
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