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So, on Tuesday, May 6, we have our first homestudy and interviews. I'm planning to finish putting things together and cleaning this weekend. I won't be able to mow the backyard though because it is supposed to rain.
Any specific questions or things they looked for that you didn't expect during your homestudy? I'm not really freaking out about it... I know our home is safe and healthy and we aren't crazy. I just wonder if there was something that caught you off guard that I might be able to prepare for?
I stressed over our home study for months. I spent the days before it cleaning my house top to bottom. I even took all the trash cans outside and cleaned them. Honestly, I worried for nothing. The social worker was extremely nice and wasn't looking to rip us into pieces like I thought she would be. She just wanted to know we have a safe house and we are decent people. The entire home study process was MUCH easier than I thought it would be. In our case, there were no surprises sprung on us.
The same here - I was a wreck because I didn't have time to clean before he came out - It was what I consider clean but you know how you want it extra, extra clean if someone is coming over. Anyway, he was just as nice as could be! He was happy that we were giving Kirsten a nice loving home. He was on and on about how he loves his job because he helps connect kids with loving parents, etc. I was so relieved!
I'm sure it will go just fine! Let us know how it goes! Good luck!!!
As we were told, the home study is more to prepare you for fostering/adoption, not to prevent you from doing so. They aren't going to be doing white glove tests or trying to find a way to turn you down.
They will ask you a million personal questions from how you grew up and what your hobbies were along with how you were disciplined and if you were abused to your current sex life, religious beliefs, and family situation. Basically they will ask you about stuff you probably wouldn't tell your mom, but maybe your best friend Not to worry, as long as your willing to be honest it's no big deal.
Mama to Monkey born Feb 24th, 2007, and Toddler born Nov 1st, 2005.
I ditto what everyone else says. It was not bad at all. Our SW spent a lot of time talking about our parents and how we were raised as children. This was especially difficult for me because I lost my father a few weeks before this meeting. The other question that was hard related to infertility. The SW wanted to make sure that had sufficiently "mourned" having a bio child. That was rough but we prepared for it.
There weren't any other questions that tripped us up. Everyone says this but truly just be yourself ---- if it makes you feel better, you can google homestudy questions and find lists that they may ask you.