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Hi guys, I am new here to the adoption board. I am expecting my second daughter this August. I am planing a vbac and am very hopeful that I will be able to do so, although if I end up having another c-section more than likely we will adopt the rest of the children we want. We plan to adopt either way, but surgery is a big fear for me so I doubt we would have more biological children. There are definitely more reasons for us wanting to adopt than just that fact. I feel blessed being about to carry the children I have carried and would love to give love and a secure family for a baby or child that doesn't have that.
Anyways, I wanted to know when is a good way to start planning on adoptions? Should we become foster parents first? I am only 23 so is that too young to even be considering this? By all means we are not rich, I have heard that if you adopt through an adoption agency it is quite expensive rather than fostering a child and then adopting him or her and you must own your own home and be quite financially stable. Can someone give me an idea of how this works?
Thanks to anyone in advance for the information.....
You have come to the right place - we have moms who have done it both ways (foster and through adoption agencies). I think everyone hear would say there are pros and cons to both. I can gladly give you some links but I want to see what some of the other moms here say. I've not experienced either one personally but know people who have done both. Our adoption was a private adoption from an individual.
Congrats on your babies and the thoughts of adoption - It is a wonderful thing to experience!
Hi and welcome to the group! There are so many ways to start the adoption process, the best thing you can do right now is research. You might contact your state and find out the requirements for becoming foster parents and then go from there.
Congrats on your new baby girl, I hope you are successful with your VBAC!
We are fostering to adopt as well as just doing foster care. We chose this because of the cost as well as because I'd like to foster older kids eventually.
I would not in any way expect to get a baby if you go through foster care to adopt. It happens, but it is rare. Usually if you agree to foster a certain age, you'll get calls for that age, but the narrower your range, the fewer calls you'll get. We are getting a 16 month old to foster and hopefully later adopt and that's fairly young in general to get a child.
If you don't mind getting an older baby, though, foster care is a great way to go! I feel blessed everyday to get into this! I wish you all the luck!