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We have a meeting with a lawyer on Thursday morning.
At this point my brother is still in the "I want to try it myself" mode. Don't get me wrong, of course it would be ideal for Josh to be with his dad. I just don't think he'll be able to do it. He hasn't had a steady job in years and doesn't even have a vehicle (much less child care). I don't see how he can afford two kids. The mother is in jail at the moment for abandoning him. She THREW him in a car (luckily my SIL caught him) and drove off. She hasn't seen him since. So we had been asked if we'd be willing to take him and raise him as our own.
We had been talking about adopting down the line, so we are definitely willing to consider it. We realize that when (and if) my brother can't do this he'll need an answer pretty quickly so we're going ahead and meeting with a lawyer to make the decision now. ((If it were just up to me we would've already said yes!))
Anyway, we were wondering what kind of questions we should ask. Here's what we have so far:
What all does the process entail?
What charges can we expect?
What will the homestudy entail?
When can we expect custody?
How many trips will we have to make to Kentucky?
What kind of trouble can Desiree (the mother) cause?
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Proud former foster parent to a teen. Waiting on our next call. Proud Aunt to 22.
Proud mommy to 7 angels. Survivor of 4 failed adoptions (5 kids)
I think those are wonderful questions! When you ask about the costs, ask him/her about the misc fees as well - a set price for the attorney might not include court fees, and other filing fees.
When we were talking to our attorney, the birth father wasn't sure if he wanted to give her up or not (even though he had several other kids that he hasn't paid child support on or visited) - our attorney reminded him that he would be free and clear of all child support - he signed on the dotted line so fast it made our heads spin!
Good luck! Let us know how it goes!