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Hello my name is Jenny I am 22. My SO is James he is 23. We have been together 7+ years. We have 2 beautiful daughters. Amara 2 and Kayori 5 months. We always new we wanted 3 children. And just recently have started talking about adopting the 3rd. We would want to wait for a while, but thought we should start researching now. We have both always wanted to adopt we just never told each other LOL
So thats my intro
If you have already adopted, how long was the process? Do we have to be married? Also is it alot of money? Not that that is an issue we just want to know so we can start saving up. I am from WA if that makes a difference. Oh and we are not wanting a baby we want the child to be close to the same age as my older dd.
Jenny - Wife to James - Mommy to Amara(8), Kayori (6),
and Rinoa (1)
missing our Angels 2001, 2005, and 2010
Hi and welcome! So glad you came by! That is a wonderful decision you have made!
The laws do vary from state to state but hopefully we can all help you along your way! There are several on here who went the foster care route, that might be good for you since you are willing to adopt an older child - it might be something to look into.
Good luck and keep us updated!!!
I'm a foster to adopt mom. We have one foster son who is a year younger than our bio daughter. The cost through the foster system is minimal if anything and many times you will receive an adoption subsidy through your state. If you go through an agency the costs might be a bit higher but still significantly cheaper than private adoption of a newborn. I wouldn't really recommend getting a child older than the youngest child in your home, but lots of people have done it and been ok. It is just harder.
You can straight adopt and not foster if you don't want to do that and still go through DSS/DHR/whatever your state calls it. Hope that helps!
Glad to see you on here... I look forward to hearing more as you start researching!
ETA: Check your state on the marriage thing. Some places will allow you adopt just fine without being married but require married couples to be together for at least a certain number of years... that is how it is here.
I don't know much about domestic adoption but if you are interested in international adoption, I might be able to help. In most cases, you do have to be married a minimum of 3 years. Also, I believe you have to be at least 27 or 30 - don't remember. There are several options available to you and foster to adopt sounds like a great one.
I don't know much about domestic adoption but if you are interested in international adoption, I might be able to help. In most cases, you do have to be married a minimum of 3 years. Also, I believe you have to be at least 27 or 30 - don't remember. There are several options available to you and foster to adopt sounds like a great one.[/b]
Ditto to the international angle. Both my adoptions were from China, and there are definitely age and length of marriage requirements.
Welcome to the group and best of luck with getting started in the process!