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Those website that you go to that list children with their pictures. Are all the children that are in the system listed online or do those tend to be the ones that have been in the system for awhile?
I was also wondering why it seems that so many of the children are on medications or have "issues"
I want to adopt but my DH is leary in getting invloved with a child that is aggressive or has anger issues. Can you specify this in your record for what you are looking for or do they frown upon that?
The nice thing about doing fostering before adopting is you get an idea if the child works in your family or not - for their sake and your own. I imagine the reason so many are on meds and have issues is probably why they were adopted out to begin with - some people just don't have the patience and/or the money to take care of a special needs child. I would be clear with the social worker so they know - even if they frown on it - you don't want to get yourself in a sticky situation - that wouldn't be good for your family or the child
Good luck with your decision! We will be here for you!
The photolistings usually list children who have been available for adoption for a while. As in, completely free and ready to be adopted today. There are lots of children out there who aren't listed because they "think" they have a home for them, or other reasons.
Have you thought about how you want to adopt? My DH was very leary too. He still is, but we are foster parents and hope to adopt too. He is getting better. We had to take a class (called MAPP class) before we could become foster/adoptive parents through the foster system. It helped him tremendously!
Of course, if you did a private adoption you wouldn't have to deal with those "older" children issues... but no one -- even biological parents -- are ever guarenteed to get the "perfect" child.
I'm sure the kids on photolistings only represent a small percentage of those who need homes. Like Beth said, those are probably the ones who have been in the system a while. You can definitely be specific about the issues you are willing to handle, so be forthcoming with that info to your social worker. Good luck with the process and keep us posted!